The Art Of Letting Go

The art of life is letting go.

We, people, can be weird sometimes. We hang on two different things at the same time. Our emotional state might be a little conflicting. We keep juggling between if it’s right to let go or to hang on. We chose to hang on even when we know it’s not the right choice. We keep fighting our thoughts in our brain and our emotions in our heart. In the end, we have to make a tough choice.

This is life. It’s pretty annoying.

Recently, one of my friends was going through something tough and she reached out to me for help and I realized that she was screwing herself up. She had two contradicting feelings. They were 1) she wanted to let go of something; 2) she wanted to hang on it anyhow. And I realized that it’s not just her. It is the story of every person out there. Even me! We tend to hold up grief, grudges or false hope. But the art of living says that real art is letting go.

It’s easy for a person consoling you to say that it’s okay or just let it go, or get over with it. Deep down we know that it’s pretty impossible to let go of the state or emotion. Angelina Jolie once said “Make the bold choice and make mistakes. It’s all those things that add up to the person you become.” As per me, we will undeniably face a moment in our life when we have to let go of something we held upon for a long time. It must be awful in the first place because we were desperately clinging on something we should have let go of long ago. Eventually, we will understand that things happen for a reason and we’re better off without that feeling.

For instance, you had a job where you were paid a handsome amount. But it didn’t bring you inner satisfaction or happiness. You dragged yourself every morning to work and earn. You have dual thoughts now. You either want to let go of the job and pursue your passion or hang on to the dull job. You are thinking to suck it up and continue doing whatever you’re but deep down you know that the paycheck is stained with unhappiness. That is where my friend you need to make a judgment call and maybe let go of the job. Or, you justify your terrible relationship by lying to yourself that if you kept fighting for your relationship, things will get better.

We build these walls around ourselves and force ourselves to stay inside it. It’s scary for us to get out of it because changes terrify us. That’s why people tend to hang on. It’s easier to hold on to something we’re familiar with. It is really important to let go of things. Eventually, we will feel light-hearted, relaxed and peaceful once we let go. We will feel if we just had let go of it sooner enough.

“When you let go of things that aren’t good for you, you make space for things that are.”