Mindset Creates A Big Difference

We live in a democratic country where everyone is said to be equal. Yes, it’s ‘said to be equal’ and not equal. For decades, the history of this country is that men have been given more priority than women. Boys will definitely feel hurt and unequal after reading this fact but well, the reality is always sour.

It is true that even after spreading so much awareness about girls and women, the mindset of parents still remains the same. They still feel like boys are more superior, stronger and responsible than girls. In so many families, girls are not allowed to go out at night, they are not allowed to do things of their choice, and they are still not involved by family members in the decision of important matters

Why is there a difference? Why do they give so much superiority and importance to this male society? Why do women always get underestimated by this society? Why do they always have to prove their worth to get respect?

So many questions but there is not even a single meaningful and worthy answer. Let me tell you a story.

A few days ago, I was talking with my friends about our childhood school memories. In between the conversation, the chat heated up when a conversation about boys started. One of my friends said that she started talking to boys when she got into college, one said that talking to boys makes them feel like that they’d done a sin and that’s why they never talked to boys of their classes in their childhood. Then, I realized how horrible these things are that. Yes, we are responsible for creating this inequality between boys and girls. There is this thing that children don’t develop this mindset by themselves, their minds are manipulated and they are forced to think in this way about other genders.

Our whole life depends on our mindset. This mindset creates difference among genders and that’s why people face so many problems and unable to respect each other even in their future because of that mindset and hate will still remain somewhere in children’s mind and that’s why they’ll never be able to trust each other completely. We should let both the genders to live freely so that there will not be any inequality or awkwardness between them when they grow up. The second reason is that parents don’t let their daughters live freely. Whenever they try to step out from their houses or do something new, they usually demotivate them by saying things like, people will make fool of them as they are unaware and not experienced. So, even if they are unaware of the mindset of this world whose fault is this? Instead of threatening them, parents should guide and support their daughters.

Who is responsible for creating this mindset of children?

There is no doubt it’s definitely the fault of parents and this society. Our parents spend their whole life thinking about what society and people will think while ignoring their children choices and desires. From our childhood, our mindset has been treated in this way that talking to boys or spending time with them will give people a chance to talk shit about our character or this will put a big question mark on our character. So many parents don’t allow their daughters to get an education after school because they don’t want to make their daughters study with other boys. So, by restricting their future they decide to protect them from the shoddy comments of people.

But it’s wrong; all genders are part of this society. We can’t separate them forever because it’s the natural process and we can’t let girls ignore boy’s presence for their whole life. At some point in time, they have to face boys because for marrying your daughter, you’ll definitely go to find a boy for her. So, if marrying her with a stranger is not wrong then why this society judges their friendship in a wrong way?

Some things are irrefutable. Parents should ignore the comments of society and should focus on their daughter’s future and instead of restricting or controlling their daughter’s life; you should educate them, focus on empowering and making them stronger and more compatible so that they will become independent and make you proud.