I'm Friends With The Monster

I’m friends with the monster.

Sometimes the monster lives under our bed and we aren’t completely aware of its existence but sometimes it is write next in front of us and we are holding its hand and walking.

Both are equally dangerous and this monsters existence in our life creates a huge obstruction in our paths to success.

First, we will talk about this ugly-eyed green monster. It is jealousy and as explained, sometimes this feeling is very intense and you are aware of it, but a lot of the time, people operate from a place of believing that they aren’t worthy of the things other people have or will never be able to have it. So many of our micro-expressions and passive aggressive behaviours are rooted in envy.

Social media has affected the way we think about ourselves drastically. What we all need to realise is that there is plenty of love and wonder and joy and success to go around.

1. One person’s beauty doesn’t make you less attractive

2. The fact that your partner once loved their ex doesn’t mean they love you less.

3. Someone’s success in their field doesn’t make you useless or less talented.

Remember one very important thing that no one posts their failures. You don’t know what they did, what problems they face, how many failures they encountered before they have succeeded.

In realising that you don’t have to “compete” for the things you want, you can free yourself from the idea that you are only as good as you are better than someone else.

If you find yourself often comparing yourself to others, I’ll give you a few tips. Make notes guys!

1. Remind yourself of all the things you already have that you wanted in the past.

2. Come up with a plan for achieving what you don’t have.

3. Seek out the betters for others, support them and affirm them.

4. Remember that everyone suffers.

5. Be humble.

6. THE MOST IMPORTANT, stop thinking that everyone else is thinking about you or evaluating your life.

You know how the saying goes, flowers don’t think competing with other flowers next to them, they just bloom. Let us all take inspiration from these beautiful creations of nature and be happy bright blooming flowers in our garden called life. The goal isn’t to be better than. Others, it is to be better than what you were before, the ultimate aim is to be happy.

Let's get familiar with our second monster. This one is a frowning blue one and is the hardest to get rid off. This blue one and me sleep together every night. Its name is Overthinking.

"She told me that thing. But why did she say it? Did she really mean what she said? What if she actually meant something else? Oh my God! She definitely hates me! Or does she? ARGH!"

Does this feel like familiar territory to you?
When you overthink, your judgements get cloudy and your stress gets elevated. You spend too much time in the negative. It can be difficult to act and what are you getting out of it? NOTHING.

So we obviously need to change this right? The most apt way to kill this monster is awareness. Anytime you find yourself doubting or feeling stressed or anxious, step back and look at the situation and how you are responding. In that moment of awareness is the seed of the change you want to make.

The last monster is yellow in colour. If it wasn’t for him many would be very successful by now. At home mom would beat him up and we would get my stuff done but its kind of difficult in college you see.

Anyway in conclusion, it is one's wrong friendship with these monsters that has ever brought one down and once this friendship is broken , they will be on the right track.

So who are your monsterr friends that you need to get rid off?