We view jealousy as a very negative feeling. I’ve seen relationships end because a boy/girl feels that their partner is out of control with their feeling of jealousy. But my question is why does it have to be looked at with such negativity? It’s important to understand that jealousy arises due to what the person has experienced in the past. When a person has been cheated on in their previous relationship it’s possible that in their next relationship they would feel insecure regarding their partner. If someone truly loves you he/she will give you time and put in efforts to show you that he/she is not going to hurt you. These days people look for an easy way out of a relationship by using eachothers'insecurity an excuse.
On the contrary one shouldn’t let their partner mistreat them in the name of love either. Jealousy makes some people act irrationally. They begin to tell each other who they can talk to or who they can go out with and without providing any justification. It’s important to have a healthy conversation about whatever is bothering you. You might feel that a person who hangs out with your partner does not have good intentions. In this case, the partner also needs to be receptive and understand the concern rather than getting angry. We all feel insecure at some point of time. Often people don’t share their insecurities fearing how their partners will react. A relationship requires two people to be sensitive towards each other’s feelings. A relationship goes through a lot of ups and down and a key to a happy relationship is transparency of feelings. Some quotes on jealousy by famous personalities:
“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and, most easily of all, the gate of fear.”
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
“I think it's important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state - meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.”
“Sure, I can get a little bit jealous. The good part about jealousy is that it comes from passion. It's also the dangerous part and it's an ugly emotion that hurts.”
“Don't waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.”
“It would be impossible to estimate how much time and energy we invest in trying to fix, change and deny our emotions - especially the ones that shake us at our very core, like hurt, jealousy, loneliness, shame, rage and grief.”
Debbie Ford (source: brainyquotes)