It Is Not Always 50-50

I came across a post that read “a relationship isn’t always 50-50. Some days your person will struggle. You suck it up and pick up that 80-20 because they need you. That’s love. When we think about relationships, we normally expect that there will always be equal efforts but in reality, it’s not that way. In every relationship there are going to be days when your partner wouldn’t be able to put in their share of efforts and love is about compensating for that void. I am sure there are people who disagree and they think that a relationship should not be like this. This really had me confused and I went to my mom for her opinion like I always do and she had the perfect answer. She said “when you are married to a man or woman for so many years you go through thick and thin together. Life is not going to always be a cake walk. You need to remember that you and your partner will have bad days and, on those days, you need support.

You wouldn’t want to be told that you’re not doing your bit and you’re being unfair. If you’re truly committed to someone you will be there for them when they need you.” I know one thing now for sure, love can never be selfish. When you love someone with all your heart and you want them to be happy no matter what you never leave room for any kind of selfishness. Marriage is the epitome of commitment and such words of wisdom can only come from those who have spent so many years together and experienced the good and the bad that life has to offer. When you’re with the right person you won’t find it burdening on days when you’re putting up with them, you’ll feel like it’s all worth it.

Two of my favourite quotes about selfless loves are:

“Selfless love is always costly; fear can't afford it; pride doesn't understand it and friends never forget it.”

Bob Goff

The selfless love that we give to others, to the point of being willing to sacrifice our lives for them, is all the proof I need that human beings are not mere animals of self-interest. We carry within us a divine spark, and if we chose to recognize it, our lives have dignity, meaning, hope.

Dean Koontz

(Source: AZ quotes)