It's Not Complicated

When Communication starts to fade, Everything else follows.

Your relationship ought to feel like a gift to you and if it doesn’t, here’s the key – communication. Communication, the act of exchanging information, ideas and emotions as it’s basic definition says. And as exchanging emotions came in mention, is what makes communication a prime importance in your relationship. Good communication can be the savior and sustainer of your relation while a lack of it can simply kill it and it’s solely up to you what you want this thirteen letter word to do.

We talk of trust and understanding in any relationship, and and for developing these two attributes between you and your partner, you need to listen, pay attention and speak and you will see how good this works. No matter how you claim that you understand your partner, you are no mind reader and if you don’t want your existing understanding to die or convert into misunderstanding, communicate. Your partner being one of the most important person in your life, deserves your full attention when he/she is talking and when you seem interested in listening, they get interested in speaking. They will in fact tell you about all that crosses their mind. But this is yet not enough. You don’t expect your partner to understand you without expressing. So, talk. Let alone communicating your problems (you of course need to do this), tell them all you have in your mind. Tell them how you feel about their words or actions, tell them if something made you happy or made you feel low, tell them if you loved the restaurant he took you last week even tell them you don’t like attitude of your maid. Tell them everything and by everything, I indeed mean everything.( No doubt you know what you don’t have to tell them). You need to confine in your partner and you’ll see how he/she becomes your diary in person.

Ever thought how lucky are the people who have their best friends as theeir partners? You can be that lucky too if you don't feel so yet. Well, what's so special about best friends? It's the fact that you are comfortable around them. You can speak anything to them. You know they'll never judge you. You need to develop the same comfort level between you and your partner. Your partner can be your best listener, your best secret keeper, your best friend, in short the best person in yourlife if you try. They may not be able to give solutions to all your problems and confusions. But if they truly love you, they'll do all they can to mae you feel better. And no doubt they'll readily listen to your stuffs.

Well now, How do you actually communicate? By speaking, right? But what if one of you is not much a talker? If your partner is someone who speaks less, he/she may be an expert listener and someone who communicates by actions and behaviour. Try to understand this because along with communication, it’s the means and kind of communication that matters and your partner is not you so you don't expect him/her to be just like you. Your ways of communication might not be same. If he/she doesn't speak up much, doesn't mean he doesn't feel much.

I'll give you a situation. Suppose someday your partner comes and sits quietly besides you without asking you the change the TV serial which has always bored him. And the same night you have an argument over a petty matter after which he apologises to you and tells you he was in a bad mood. What do you feel now? Sorry? For not understanding his mood? Or do you blame him for not telling you before hand? Think about it. It was more of your fault than his. It wasn't that you didn't know how unlikely was it of him to say nothing about that serial which bored him so much. You knew he doesn't always sits so quiet. He communicated, his actions gave you the messages but you just failed to percieve them. This is how mode of communication plays it's part. Above situation is no big deal in day to day life but if such incidents become frequent, they might become a problem. You need to understand your partner and his ways of communication too.

When you’ll start giving importance to communication in your relationship, you’ll see how other aspects like trust, confidence, understanding all fall in place.You'll have less to be tensed about and more to enjoy. So, make space for an open communication feel free to express your feelings, make your partner feel the same and experience the best version of a healthy relationship because it really isn't that complicated.