Friendly Or Flirty? Why Is It So Hard To Find?

Most of the boys and girls would have mistaken friendliness for flirting at some point in time. Being friendly and flirty are so similar and sometimes all we understand is that the person gives mixed signals.People mislead themselves into traps of mixed signals.

There is a very fine line separating friendliness and flirtiness

Extroverts and Ambiverts are so friendly to everyone they meet or at least talk to. They get along instantly and are so jovial. This way of treating others is often mistaken to be flirting as people usually come across a very small ratio of people who are genuinely friendly.

There's no one to blame in this issue. Generally, women don't realise that a man's flirting and always see him as being friendly whereas men often mistake friendliness as flirting. But the opposite also happens and these cases are a minority. Thus we don't look into it.Though we don't look into it, casualties are common.

So where did we go wrong?

There's a common misconception that girls are shy and not so funny like guys, that they don't start a conversation or keep up with the men's rate of making friends. Often girls are considered as spectators. Girls are expected to be composed.When girls go against this notion, they are seen as flirtatious. An outgoing girl is often mistaken. An extrovert girl is termed as flirtatious. Sick isn't it?

In the case of boys, the scenario is totally different. Since most of the boys are outgoing, girls cannot differentiate between the friendly one and the flirtatious one. Even a guy who didn't mean to flirt is seen as flirtatious because girls don't come out of the picture stuck in their mind.They have always considered boys in this way and trying to change this perspective is not an easy task.

Who is the reason behind all such misconceptions?

Obviously, society!

We have trained our minds to think based on what we see in society in spite of the fact that society itself is biased. Society is still conservative and stereotyped. Misjudging a person is so obvious these days. There is no respect for a person's emotions these days. We have become so intolerable. We hardly care about anything until it involves us. Selfishness is found in the blood of our society. Nothing is considered an issue until we are victimised. All of a sudden, we blame our society for misjudging. When are we going to realise that it's us, the society is comprised of?

Next time, make sure that the views of society didn't blur your vision.