How Expectations Make You Unhappy?

Jaymin Rana
Mar 31, 2020   •  10 views

It’s completely normal to have certain expectations but having high or unrealistic expectations will only lead to disappointment. Here are the few unrealistic expectations which we always make and that make you unhappy.

1. You expect too much from yourself.

Why you are expecting too much from yourself?

Expecting too much is damaging to your self-esteem and overall wellbeing. It is good to have a high standard, but its important to be reasonable with yourself. Otherwise, the more you expect the more you’ll have disappointment, anxiety issues, depressions, low self-esteem.

Here are the few signs which you make,

  • Don’t allow yourself to make mistakes

  • Being critical to yourself.

  • Setting goals according to other people’s expectations.

  • A constant need for achievement.

  • Expecting to be 100% all the time.

2. You think life should be fair.

Life is neither fair nor unfair!

Try to keep your thoughts and actions positive, help others where you can, and enjoy life. When you deal with the positivity, move on and learn by the experiences, when things going well, be joyous and great. You won’t then worrying about whether life is fair or not.

Some people refer to this as Karma and believe there is a higher power that administers it, but I see it as a natural effect to inevitable consequences.

3. You think opportunities will fall into your lap.

Most of us wait for the right opportunities to come. We wait for and opportunities to be offered a better position or a better job. We wait for an opportunity to make more money. We wait for the right men or women. We wait for an opportunity to start something new.

Do the opportunities overcome?

Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t.

You wait for something to happen. Why just daydream and let go of all things and not go beyond the dreams?

Why become disappointed and unhappy because nothing happens?

You can create opportunities!

Often, it not a matter of creating them, but becoming aware of them. Recognizing them and requires a change of your mindset. When we want something very strongly, and we are focused on it completely, things start happening. there is no magic here, just plain mental and emotional law of work.