How To Have A Long Term Relationship?

Sometimes, security starts to seem like a good thing. If you're tired of playing the field, or are interested in turning a good relationship into a serious commitment, you may have a lot of questions about how to make it work. You can learn to tell whether or not you're ready for a long-term relationship, as well as how to make it work and keep your relationship fresh.

If you want to fall in love, then you’re definitely not alone there. Love definitely makes life worth living and it’s truly unlike anything else you’ve ever experienced before.

Love isn’t easy, but of course that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t make it a part of your life. Here’s how to have a long lasting relationship and finally be happy in love.

Have realistic expectations

Expectations can kill even the best relationships. Think of it this way: if you think your boyfriend is going to surprise you with flowers and a fancy dinner on your one-year anniversary but he does absolutely nothing, how do you feel? Pretty awful, right? You’re definitely pissed because you had an expectation that wasn’t met. If you can have more realistic expectations, then your relationship has a much better shot of working out.

Share your personal life goals with your partner

What do you want out of your life? Where do you want to be in ten years? What kind of a career do you envision for yourself? These kinds of things can get in the way of long-term relationships, or can at least make your compatibility with someone more challenging. Recognize incompatibility when it arises. If you want to travel extensively in the next couple years and your partner doesn't, that's something you'll need to talk about. Relationships that manipulate you into doing things that you don't want to do are not healthy.

Try going on a trip together

One good, quick way to find out whether or not your relationship has the potential to succeed is in going on a trip together. Trips can be stressful, and will force you to spend lots of time together at once, so it can be a nice way to see whether or not your relationship will stand up to the stress of it. You'll see your partner at their worst, probably.

Commit to your partner

If, after putting your relationship to the test, you think that you've got a keeper on your hands, it might be time to commit to something serious. When you're ready, let your partner know that you're committed to the relationship and that you're willing to work on it and to try your best to keep it healthy. Every relationship will be different, so talk with your partner. Commitment may be as simple as being open about an "exclusive" arrangement, or as serious as getting engaged, depending on what you've discussed with your partner. But committing and choosing to work on your relationship, to make compromises to serve that relationship, is an important step.

Be honest with your partner

One of the most important parts of a long-term relationship has to do with honesty. If you're going to commit, you owe your partner honesty, at the least, in terms of your desires for the relationship and your happiness. If you're frustrated about something, share, and listen in return. Be willing to be vulnerable with your partner and share things you don’t tell many people about.

Set mutual goals

If you've discovered that your life goals line up with your partner, start setting mutual goals for yourselves and for your relationship. What is your ultimate ambition for your relationship and for yourself? Where do you hope to be next year? Where do you hope to be in the next five years? Figure out what you need to be doing to grow your relationship and your life together.

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