Marriage: A Choice Or Compulsion?

24, The age when you start planning about your future seriously while the society starts planning about your marriage.

Each time they meet you, they are going to ask you the same question in every different possible way.

That whole conversation would be somewhere around your marriage, isn't it? But they aren't even going to spare you on call.

And you are left with no other option than ignoring it. Anyway dear you aren't the only one living such life; most of us are are, because since our birth, we Indians are made to take decisions on the basis of society's thoughts. Also, our typical Indian parents would hardly think of allowing something uncommon or what isn't followed in the society.

From admitting you to the same school where Sharma uncle's son went and making you choose the same stream as Gupta uncle's daughter chose , to even following the same pattern of marriage as it is being followed since ages. That's how we all grow up. Parents do not want their children to live alone after they leave this world, so they want us to find someone with whom we can happily spend our lives, rather in most of the cases they find OUR PERFECT PARTNER THEMSELVES as they consider themselves better with understanding good and bad for us. Hence, they are perfect for this job even when WE are the ones who have to live the entire life with them.

So, marriage today and since ages is a compulsion because if you won't marry someone, you are going to get criticized for not following the custom which every sincere child does. You need to think what would Mr. Sharma, Gupta or xyz probably think about it and not what you want to.

Your Marriage should be your choice and your decision and not someone else's.
When you want a partner to support you through out your life, a partner with a special and legal relationship, when you need someone's hand to hold yours and move ahead together in live, you should plan to marry someone.

When you feel that you don’t have any priority which you might not be able to fulfil if you get married, then you should think of marrying someone.

If you feel the need to have a partner then go ahead but at the right time, when you feel responsible enough and not because of peer pressure because trust me, you aren't just going to ruin your life but also your partner's and parent's.

Do you feel any reason to not marry? If yes, please stay on it. Do not try to justify it. It's your life and you aren't accountable for your actions to people who merely exist in your life.

Please understand marriage is a personal choice not a matter of opinion for the society, do not hesitate to do something or take any action that would help you live a better life.