There have been times where I have tried to act a certain way just to feel as if I am more "accepted" or more "liked" by people. However, I have also always found it very exhausting to keep up such a facade constantly. I have found it is easier to hangout with the few people you can be real with rather than to hangout with people you have to pretend in front of. When I was younger, Avril Lavigne used to be my favourite singer. In one of her most famous songs, she says "You know, you're not fooling anyone when you become somebody else 'round everyone else. You're watching your back, like you can't relax. You're trying to be cool, you look like a fool to me." Those lyrics continue to speak to me to this date. If I try to go in front of a crowd and do ballet when I don't know how to do it, I'd feel like a fool. Likewise, If I try to be somebody else, I feel foolish because I am not good at being somebody else. I am good at being me.
When you are good at something, you like doing it. When you are good at something, you get this feeling to master it. You are good at you, hold on to that. Work on yourself and master yourself. Working on yourself is much more fun than working on being someone else. That party girl may look as if she has the most blessed life, but you can never be sure. She goes home exhausted from another day of trying to please everyone and is met with hundreds of texts from people who just want to use her for her popularity. She falls asleep trying to determine which of those people that flock her are genuine. Don't ever try to be like someone you are not. One lie leads to a thousand more. When you fake your personality once, you have to fake it everytime to get accepted. You will then wake up tired everyday and go to sleep uneasy everyday. When you try to be supposedly "cooler" in front of your "friends", you are not only lying to them, but also to yourself.
When you are true to yourself, you are at your best. When you accept yourself completely, no one can break you down. When you like being yourself, you make your boundaries clear to everyone. I have heard many say "fake it till you make it", however, you will never make it and you will fake it to emotional exhaustion. Once you are emotionally done, you won't be able to pretend anymore and the friends that liked you when you pretended will ruthlessly leave you, driving you into more sadness. When you are yourself, you make friends that like you for yourself. They don't leave you when things get tough. Being true at all times is difficult because everyone has that nagging thought in their minds to act just "this once" to obtain appreciation. Remember, that the "this once" will turn into always and you will lose yourself trying to maintain a reputation being someone you never were.