Why Being An Introvert Is Much Better Than Being An Extrovert?

“Oh he doesn’t talk to me because I’m boring…”

“Hmph! Anyways, I’m an introvert. I can’t get girls to like me.”

Being an introvert sucks, right?

WRONG!

And I’ll tell you why. Read on.

Introversion and extroversion are personality characteristics, something which can’t be changed. There have been many psychological researches on whether a personality type is something which is developed over time, or it has something to do with genes, and the answer is:Your personality type starts developing even before birth.

Now, without getting into the depths, let’s start.

The first thing you need to understand is that being shy and being introverted are two different things. Being an introvert is a personality type, something which you have no control on. Being shy is an attribute of your personality, which you can surely and easily improve. Being an introvert doesn’t imply shyness. There are many extroverts who are shy too.

Now what a lot of introverted people feel is that their shy nature is such a disadvantage and they believe that extroverted personality type is the answer. What a common belief! But what you’re forgetting is that it is something you can’t control, and if you try to act like an extrovert, you’ll only be met with disappointment and low self-esteem. So please, don’t even try. I’ve gone through that feeling.

Let’s examine behaviourally what’s more advantageous: being an extrovert or introvert?

Take 3 basic observations –

1. Being an extrovert has nothing to do with intelligence and/or "coolness"

2. Humans majorly seek acceptance from people around them

3. If one tends to express themselves easily, their emotions get expressed as well

Combine these 3, and you get a person who’s readable. What you’re doing is exposing your behavioural patterns for everyone to see and your weaknesses get exposed.

• Understand one simple thing: The more you talk and display yourself, the more you tell others about yourself. You make yourself easy to figure out!

One who speaks less gets time to observe others more, hear others and possibly read them. She/he gets to know who’s who faster than those who are busy in telling others who they are.

• Your personality type is a mystery.

You’re non-threatening to everybody. Nobody know what your skills are, capabilities are; everybody assumes, based on your silence that you are a nobody.

• People accept you because one, they’re not challenged by you, and two, because everybody wants to be heard.

What we learn from this is that being impressive has nothing to do with personality type. It has everything to do with what skills you have, your store of knowledge – basically, what you can give to others that they don’t possess.

To talk a lot or express yourself isn’t a skill, it’s a behavioural trait. Therefore, it isn’t impressive when devoid of impressive content. If you want to get ahead of people, you’d want to know everything about them, and them to know nothing about you. Be as non-threatening as you can be.

So when do you strike?

At the moment of opportunity.

Make a display when there’s something at stake. Otherwise, listen and smile. What are the two greatest wants people subconsciously have? The insatiable want to be heard by others and be accepted. Two simple actions fulfil them both – listening and smiling.

But again, you have to build the content that impresses others. And that takes work, practice and dedication. If you have nothing to show for, and are shy, of course you’re going to be a loser; and the ability to speak confidently wouldn’t change that either.

If you want to be impressive, to be accepted, then develop yourself and build your skills.

So screw the longing for a shift in your personality and start working on yourself.