Is Love Blind?

Love: It's one which puts you on top of the clouds or in a deep, dark hole. It’s one that can give intense pleasure or intense pain in our lives. And no matter how much experiences we go through, it always seems like we’re still trying to figure it out as we go.

When you are in midst of deep love, when you feel the love in the air, when the world is filled with rainbows and butterflies, everything your partner does is right. This is where the term “Love is blind” comes from. You are blinded by love and cannot see flaws in your beloved lover.

Why do we feel this way? Why do we act as if our partner doesn’t have any shortcoming? When you first get together with a romantic partner, it’s difficult to recognize character flaws in him/her, as you’re in the lusting phase of your relationship. As we are in the phase of attraction, we tend to give our partners more leeway. They have more space to make mistakes because we have created very less rules in our relationship. And in many cases, you don’t have any rules. You just want the opportunity to make them happy.

At times you’re fully loving from the heart, instead of the head. Here are some thought processes of someone who is loving from the heart:

“What would make my partner happy? What would turn them on? I’m going to enjoy and explore all things together, I’m going to make this relationship perfect.”

There are no doubts, no rules. If relationships were that simple, then every person would on the planet would be mingled. You don’t think of how much you are giving, and comparatively how much you are receive. When you are loving from your heart, you are in the blind stage. Lovers are blind folded and cannot see the negative traits of their partner. In a surprising number of cases, people fall in love with their idealized vision of their lovers, rather than with the actual reality of their lovers. Why this stage comes to an end? Why do we stop loving from the heart?

The answer is: Your head takes over. Logic is an intellectual trait, but in relationships, it can be destructive. Here is the train of thoughts of someone who loves from head, instead of heart:

“I wonder how they are going to celebrate my birthday. I planned such a great party on their birthday. What if they forget completely? Like they forgot to congratulate me when I won the competition. Or like how they forget even the little things, like the fact that I don’t like pink color. How can I have a partner who doesn’t know I don’t like pink?!”

At this point, you have made some rules in your head about how a partner should behave, what your relationship should be like and what you deserve. Here your head has completely overtaken all the positive emotions you had before when your love was still blind. Flaws in your partner are no longer cute, and they can even become an annoyance over time.

And when we let mistakes happen over and over again, it starts to stack up, we start feeling tensed and feel resentment towards our partner. If your relationship matters to you, it’s never too late to save it. Love may be blind early on in new relationships, but you can find a way to clearly see and appreciate your partner as time goes on.