#Friendship_goals ?

Friendship is interpreted in different ways by different people. That's legit though because it is not something that could be confined to a set of definitions. So, I do have a modified description of it. People celebrate their friendships the way they want. Some believe in partying, some gifting each other, some hanging out and there are many more ways. But, my story is a little different.

To begin with, I have two people whom I call my friends. They have been christened Ruth and Jennifer. We have been together for some 11years or so. We found each other due to our native language as I could only talk to them as I was new to Delhi and they seemed familiar to me in a class full of people speaking a language alien to me. Once it began, we were unstoppable. We grew stronger by each passing day. At the start, we used to fight. Fight for petty things. Now, I can't even remember the last time we fought, maybe some 5 to 6 years back (We sound old now). We were also called the Tamil Sangam in our school. You might ask what's so unique about this. Everybody has the same story. This might not sound different but a little weird.

We have never gifted each other from the time we know each other. Forget gifting on birthdays and friendship days we don't even wish. Every friendship day, our conversation is like this:

"Sneha sab keh rahe hain ki Aaj friendship day hai." (Sneha, Everybody is saying today is friendship day)

" Achcha Chalo Kuch kaam ki Baat Karte Hain. "( Oh.. Okay, let's do some other talk)

This goes with birthdays too.

We have never consoled each other when someone cries. Everybody would be trying their best to stop them from shedding Ganga and Yamuna, and I'll be like she will be okay soon. They would look at me like a strange animal and get on to work. Deep inside, I only know that they cry when they are irritated ( Yeah, they cry when they are angry).

We hardly praise or try to flatter each other. And the most amazing part is we all have a different set of friends in our school too.

What keeps us going is we all know that when we need some help, we will be there for each other. We needn't ask. But we know, and we will understand each other. They know when I'm happy and when I'm not, and I know the same about them. We know each other inside out. That's what it is UNDERSTANDING.

Every relationship is strong only when there are great understanding and low expectations. I always feel that's what works for our friendship. This is the most critical unsaid rule a relationship follows be it between parents and children, siblings or friends. Relationships sail in the ocean of understanding navigated by the trust. But, their weapon to fight every iceberg is their low expectations. Expectations lead to crashes. Crashing down of the heart. So, make friends but before moving on, understand them. Give them space. Do not expect. Because

Understanding makes reality a dream, but expectations ruin reality.