Ghosting - Why Real People Are Turned Into Ghosts?

Ghosting, a term that has recently entered the mainstream vocabulary refers to the cutting off all communication from a person you knew. Obviously, there is no necessary explanation involved for the party being ghosted. If you are someone who might have been ghosted by someone or have ghosted someone, chances are you pretty much know how it feels to be cut off without any proper explanation or what kind of circumstances lead someone to exhibit such behavior. The term can trace its roots in the context of dating, but it can also occur in friendships and even professional relationships. People tend to prefer to be rejected through direct confrontation than hurtful ghosting. But we must also consider the psychology of the ghoster as to what circumstances lead him to take such a step. It is found that people who do not want to have emotional closeness are more likely to ghost someone in their life. It's not that it's a recent phenomenon but it has become more obvious in today's world because we are connected to each other more than any period in human history. And due to this ubiquitous connectivity, it's not a tough task to know who is the ghostee.

So why do people ghost

Well, there is a plethora of reasons for someone to partake in ghosting. But generally they do so because:

• They feel like their time is being wasted than being spent on something productive.

• They feel they have nothing in common with the person.

• They might feel the relationship is unhealthy or toxic with no mutual respect.

• Don't want to confront any conflicts.

• They think their life is the same without the person anyway.

• They simply just want to hit the 'reset' button and move on from their past.

• They care about the person and don't want to burden them with their own troubles.

How should a 'ghostee' move on

• Remember it's not you but someone you saw a friend in. There is no need for self-blame game.

• It's futile to want someone back in your life if they can't see your values and worth.

• Give the 'ghoster' their time to cope up with their problems.

• Maybe it's mutually beneficial. See the bigger picture.

• Value people who are close to you and spend time with them.

Ghosting isn't a modern trend but it shows how modern time due to its unprecedented connectivity has made it conspicuous in our lives. Although it might not be easy for a ghoster to have a direct confrontation with the ghostee, but showing kindness, respect and having open communication can lend a hand in avoiding unnecessary emotional pain and distrust.