Sans Trepidation Of Being A Woman

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Ronita Mitra
May 27, 2019   •  3 views

Do you ever like to shout in the void? Do you ever feel the stress supernumerary? Do you ever feel like you’re the third wheel out? Do you ever feel that you’re being objectified by misogynists? Do you ever feel like you’re being stared or talked about? Do you ever feel telltaled by your own kind? Do you ever feel to unwind yourself? Do you ever fathom to be carefree and careless and have the wind behind your hair like there is no tomorrow?

Well, if you said yes to everything above, congratulations dear on being a woman.
Woman- the very world claims to be a descendant of the word wifmen or to be more specific wife-man.
Which means, neither was Shakespeare nor was Wordsworth brave enough to make the very word – woman exist without the actuality of a man. Was it just prejudice, or let me reframe it- was it cowardice? Whatever it was, it got stuck to us , and pretty much, nothing has changed.

We’re still stuck up in a patriarchal society which breathes down a woman’s neck rattling her to beg to her knees, infront of men. Those who deny, stand adamant andtall.Theyare just overshadowed by the malign insults and the taglines of “Tomboy”, “Too Forward”, “Overconfident”, “Bitch”, “Snob” and what not. Not only do our dear men do this, women are no step behind in disenfranchising their own kins.

Because this is what our culture teaches us. You break down, you mould, you suffer, but still you paste the happiest of the smiles each time there’s someone asking you, “how are you?” How about answering them with the truth? How about telling them , “Misoginy and Patriarchy are killing me, but still I’m great”. This might be a good starter for a conversation.

As soon as a girl reaches 25, at the most peak of her career, you drive her crazy to get married, because well again the same tagline “Log Kya Kahenge”. But you don’t let a guy settle down at 25 owing to the fact, that 25 is the brim of one’s career. Ofcourse, a bunch of hypocritic societies teach us once again, that when a man has to earn, woman has to produce babies.

We have been honing the skills of motherhood because that’s something that has been genetically implanted into our systems while, a male child is being taught to take care of his future partner, and make her lifestyle lavish with his hard earned money. My question is, why are we maintaining such protocols, in this century? There are many men out there, who have better motherly instincts than women themselves. And there are many women out there, who are successful and moneyed enough to feed a family of four. Why prototype our kinds with rules which were not even designed by us? Why live by the 12th century edicts, while being in the 21st century?

A little girl, steps into her very womanhood by the onset of her periodic cycle. When her parents warn her of the onlookers on the street, she becomes a woman. Her every path, deems on becoming a woman. Her every struggle is a milestone on becoming a woman. When she gives birth to a tiny little miniature- a baby , she becomes a woman. Her every footstep evolves her as a woman. Her every pace, breaks her cocoon as she emerges out to be a beautiful butterfly. Her every clandestine step in becoming a she, is her modus operandi in becoming a woman.

She blesses our everyday, in every role she plays , be it a mother, a sister, a daughter, a colleague, a friend, a girlfriend, a boss, a coworker, a wife – anyone. She has so many roles to play and she never leaves a single stone unturned in becoming the most perfect version of herself in that role. So why just dedicate one day to her? Why just celebrate her one day when we have the remaining 364¼ days left?

My message to all the women out there is, stand by us. Stand by all of us and be one, no matter what. We are our own support in this hellhouse. If we can produce a wholesome human being from us, we can pretty much do anything in this world. All we need is a tincture of support from our own people, and our kindred. A pinch of courage and a tweak of love, is going to make all the difference in this world. Let’s make this our own customised, and tailor made road not travelled. Let’s celebrate each day, as a women’s day. Let’s take a moment to pat our backs, and say to ourselves, “you’re doing it in the best way possible, and no-one would have done it better than you”. Let’s celebrate the untamed spirit of an individual, rather than a woman. Let’s celebrate the human, in the woman.

While celebrating International Women’s Day, We post pictures with all those brave women who taught us to be who we are. Let’s do something different from today. Let’s post pictures of all those women and men who told you to back down. To give up.

To tie up your hair and never let them flow.
To snap off your dreams.
To be a baby producing machine.
To always paste a smile.
To be a woman.
Show them, what it takes to not be a woman. Show them, what it takes to break these rules. Show them, that you’re no less than them, if not better. Show them, that you can break the prototypes that govern you. Show them , that when the going goes tough, you become tougher. Show them, that when the world breaks down in front of you, you stand strong as ever bearing the strings to the very life on earth. Show them, what it takes to be you.

Let’s unleash the man in us.
A very happy un-woman day to all of us !

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