Stop! Hear The Insight Of An Introvert

I’m standing in the crowd in front of the stage of my college festival. My two friends - both extroverts standing with me on either side, swaying along with the singer. I was tired with all the loud music and dense crowd. I started missing my bed and my favourite playlist. All the small talk during fest has drained all my energy. It was just too much for an introvert like me.

First thing first “Introverts are not shy”. Our emotional energy drains so fast when we spend a lot of time with others. We are not afraid to interact with other people. It’s just not our cup of tea. We love spending time alone it really recharges our emotional energy. I expect people to understand and respect that. The situation was worse when I was in school. My school system was designed in such a way it is gonna be a challenging day every day for me. One of the things I hate most is the group activity without my friends in the same group. The problem with staying in the group with a super energetic extrovert is that he does all the talking and makes it hard for most of us to present our idea. The marks are evaluated on the basis of participation in the group. I was consistently getting low marks in group activities. My homeroom teacher was worried that it would affect my grades. He called me asked, “why aren’t performing well in a group activity?” I told him it was hard for me. I can give fifty more similar examples in my life. All the time I got a message that somehow my quiet and introverted style was not necessarily the right way to go, that I should be trying to be pass as more as an extrovert. I always felt this was wrong.

In my experience (of course, not with all cases), we tend to view extroverted people as these mythic figures with leadership skills, a confident aura, positive attitude, and an overly welcoming personality. But typically when we look at introverted people, sometimes it doesn’t consist of a bunch of positive vibes and warm feelings. Well, why the hell not?. When did the society start deciding which one is best or worse?

Classroom teaching should not be biased toward extroverts. The scientific research says that you can’t be in a group without mimicking, aping and following their belief. This research is a clear indication we do things without even giving it a lot of thought. These days most of the activity in schools is done in groups. This is a loss for introverts and everybody around them. Introverts require calm and solitude to do their best work. We as a society are preventing one-third of our population not to perform their best.

Let's create an environment where everyone is their oneself. Let's create a society where we understand each other and work in harmony.