Changes!!!

Change. Whenever you think about that word, there are thousands of thoughts that make way into your minds. You don’t even realise and yet there are so many things you start wondering about. From pondering over the journey from womb to tomb to that every change that takes place in the midst of the journey; the thoughts don’t cease.

It is said that an empty mind is a devil’s workshop. It is true but only to an extent because sometimes it is when you are doing nothing that you experience some great insights, those ‘aha’ moments. There are so many times that I’ve personally experienced those.

Change: what is to you? What is it to me?

I think it’s strange that in spite of the fact that we experience millions of thoughts in a day, we rarely give heed to them. Remember the smile you see on a mother’s face when she gives birth to her baby and how it changes to a stern expression to teach him etiquette and then to that of anger to ensure he is on the right path. It’s not just those facial expressions but the feeling behind them that I am referring to. Yes, there is love in all the three cases but then with love comes so much more.

Do you remember when the baby was just in your arms to when he started crawling and then walking and then running? This is one beautiful change. Isn’t it? This is what parents want for their kids. A beautiful, blessed childhood; to see this growth. Imagine a little change in the circumstances, imagine what is it like for parents expecting something similar to having to see their child with autism struggling throughout the childhood, for a parent waiting to hear the child’s first word to realise that their child might not be able to speak. Now, that is not a change people like discussing.

Good and bad changes

So, I believe there are good changes and there are bad changes. The good changes are the ones that make you happier, make you smile more often and the bad changes are the ones that all of us want to avoid like its plague. When you see that there is some good work being done in society, a social reform; you believe it’s a good change. When you see that rapes continue to be in news despite the candle marches and laws, you believe things won’t change and when your perfect relationship becomes not so perfect, it is the worst change.

How do you deal with this change?

It is extremely difficult to accept that change, to move ahead in life with it, to not dance with the ghosts of the pasts and ponder about how things used to be. But, the sad reality is there is no other way out. That accepting them howsoever, difficult it might be is the only option to move on in life. Acceptance and then working on it. If it’s a change you want to bring in yourself, work on it. If it’s a change you want to bring in your relationship, work on it. If it’s a change you want to bring in society, work on it.

It is precisely said that be the change you want to see. Adding to it, reinforce it, reaffirm it and it will become achievable. Accepting in itself is so hard but once that is done, it motivates you to work on it, to make things better and they will be. Faith and determination are the pillars to hold on to.