Hold On, We Got You

I am confident this article of mine will get maximum reads. And it will not be because of my writing or the new found talent but purely because of the content. It is the people in depression, who seek internet for help the most. This only shows they are trying to defeat it and leave it behind and how desperate they are for help. This also shows that depression is so less talked about in the real world that people have to reach out to the virtual world for help, literally from strangers, only because we are ashamed to talk about it, getting judged or getting isolated even further.

To all those in depression, loneliness is an attached feeling to it and this is what feeds the depression. The fear of getting misunderstood or not getting understood at all, fear of further negligence makes us want to deal with it alone. People won’t see it as a problem, they will laugh. That’s what they do best anyway, run away from problems. Why go to the doctor until you are dying? Why not use the same prescription as before for a similar problem? Just let it be and it will go away. So obviously depression won’t get the attention it demands. What? Feeling low? Go to sleep, that will probably help. Wait I will order your favorite food and you will forget it all. These things happen all the time, you just concentrate on your work and you will forget it gradually. Unfortunately, depression doesn’t go away with pizza too. Because that’s the thing with depression. You don’t want anything and you feel like you don’t have anything. You don’t have hope, or power, or self-confidence, or the will to live and breathe even a single second further. It is like a burden, which you can’t take any further from this, you wish to let it go and there seems only one way to do that. You wish quitting more than you ever did, you wish this to end at any cost, to get away from it. Only because you really can’t take even half a step forward. You are tired of fighting. And you don’t see any different future too. Your tomorrow seems as doomed as your yesterday, and as for today. Well, you hate living or even thinking about it. You can’t sleep, you can’t think, you can’t eat, you can’t concentrate. Is there any disease as big as this? Is there any other disease which just strips you off your hope? Which just makes you dead while you are alive? When you are capable of doing literally anything, you are reduced to being so powerless that even breathing seems difficult.  That is the power of depression. Clearly, even pizza won’t help. Yes, there is no seemingly physical damage. But if you are in India, well then, we have no problem at all. But you are so badly weakened mentally, that this disease single handedly gives you a tour of all the possible types of pain and it is so wicked that other people don’t see a thing. Its only you, alone in the suffering.

What we need to know, is that while we are lonely, we are never alone. While we are thinking here in our misery that we have no one, way more than 300 million people are thinking exactly the same thing. They are reaching out for you as much as you are, for them. As badly as you are looking for help, for a cure, for an escape, they are doing the same. The pain you feel right now, the void, is actually being felt by 7% of the people. Their problem might not be the same, but they are also suffering as bad as you are. This is it. This the bottom of your life. It’s when you think of ending it, that’s the lowest of your life.  And from here there is only one way ahead, which is upward. You have to grip to the idea of time, and believe that nothing is permanent. Even sadness. And it will go away someday. All you have to do is keep walking and you will find your way. Everything will guide you to it and while you think its not making sense, it will teach you the lesson it is meant to teach, it will find its purpose and end, making you ready for the next beautiful phase of your life. The worst thing one can think of during this time, which is NOT going to bring any good to anyone, is think what people are going to say. Because they don’t know what you are dealing with. Only you do. And you need to stand up for yourself. Drag yourself to the thing which redeems you, be it therapy or help or anything which gives you hope. Reach out to help and get out of this. Don’t shy away from medication or therapy or any professional help. you need to know that taking help doesn’t make you weak and that it doesn’t mean that situations went so wrong that you couldn’t even take care of yourself. Understand that this isn’t you but a phase in your life. We live in a biodiverse world where we as species depend on each other to survive. And hence, there is nothing wrong or self-depreciating in taking help. it isn’t necessary to make all your battles so difficult and if you have an easy option, choose it, if you see light by the end of it. We will face the world after we get out of it, and do our part in changing it for the better. But first we will empower ourselves. We will accept it as a real issue and cure it. We need to stop being ashamed of ourselves for having a mental health issue when it is as normal as a fever and no it’s not your fault. I hope this gives you the inspiration you are looking for and the universe is trying to reach you with, but let us find that light which will keep us going again.