of the ways to love yourself is to treat yourself the way you would treat someone you love.
Like, when we love someone else we obsess over their good parts so much that we forget that their flaws even exist.
And if somehow we came across their flaws we just accept and move on simply because their good parts are so perfect that their flaws can't overshadow them.
Why can't we do the same thing when it comes to us?
Why are we so harsh on ourselves?
Why do we feel the pressure to be perfect in every possible way even though it is humanly unattainable?
When the person we love is sad we try to make them laugh, we give them the thing they love or even ask them to do the thing they love just because we want them to feel happy and laugh for once.
Why don't we do that when we are sad?
Why don't we do the things that we love when we are sad?
Instead of that we just suck it up, stay at one place and expect someone else to make us happy, why do we make someone else the source of our happiness when we are perfectly capable of making ourselves feel good.
Treat yourself the way you treat someone else you love. Accept yourself, accept your flaws and embrace them.
Just like when we see a rose plant we see the beautiful flower and are so mesmerized by it that we forget it has the thorns too.
and being a human we are bound to have flaws and our job is not to correct those flaws but to accept them and move on.
I know that self-love can't just happen overnight, it is a journey of knowing yourself, knowing your capabilities, knowing your abilities.
Till the time you don't know yourself, you won't be able to love yourself.
So discover yourself, try to find the things that excite you, the thing you love. And a time would come when you'll be so surprised by yourself that you won't even have the time to hate yourself because you'll be busy doing the thing you love which makes you happy.