The Thing About Friendships

Friends are important. From a toddler, a teenager, a middle aged person to an old person – everyone needs good friends to live life to the fullest.

Friends are those assholes who make fun of you as much as they can, but will also defend you and everything you stand for behind your back. They are the idiots you love and hate at the same time. There are fights, and patch ups, giggles and inside jokes which solidify this relationship. Friends are a big source of entertainment and also life lessons.

I’ve learned so much from my past and current friends. I have had friends who made me feel like crap, like I was at their service. The lesson I learned there is I am not less than anyone. I don’t deserve to be crap, nor do I have the right to treat someone else like crap. I became a better friend to my current friends. My friends now teach me how to let go and just have fun. As the days go by, I try to become a better friend to my friends and here’s how I do it:

I try to make sure they are okay when they seem low. I may not be great at showing it but I am always worried about my friends. Sometimes I send a text or maybe even give them a call. Maybe even annoy the hell out of them to release their emotions. It’s just that there’s no universal method to being caring without being too pushy. You’ve got to figure out what works best and adjust as required.

Being someone who is good at hiding negative emotions, it has sort of given me an idea of knowing who is lying and who is not.

It’s true; masks get heavy when you wear them for too long.

Sometimes we forget how to take it off, stuck in this constant loop of I’m fine and AHHHHH NOOOOOO. I often get stuck in this loop admittedly. It sucks whenever I do. Usually I message or call my best friend and she knocks sense into me. She says the things I don’t want to but need to hear. God bless her soul and thank goodness I have her!

Whenever they ask for my opinion or help on something I try to give them all the feedback or help they need. I’ll go into full teacher or mom mode, pointing out the small necessary details they need to work on. Personally, when my friends show me that they are invested and care about my work, I feel great. Even with this blogs; the constructive criticism I get from my friends is essential!

I have been friends with my best friends for the past 7 seven years, and every day we still learn things about each other. We both try to make it work, and it does!