Change Is Good Unless You Are Changing For Someone Else

I know I say you should love yourself the way you are, but sometimes, changing for the better can be a step towards completely working on loving yourself. Change is good if if it makes you feel more content about yourself and does no no harm. Change is good when it genuinely benefits you in life. You are trying breathing exercises these days and becoming a calmer person to get over your mental issues. That change is good. You are leaving toxic people behind and becoming a believer of yourself. That change is good. You are learning how to manage your emotions and becoming a stronger person. That change is good. I don't look down upon that kind of change, I encourage it. Changing for someone else however, I condemn it.

There was a time when I tried to change myself to become more accepted. I tried to act more "mature" and I tried to act as if I knew a lot of things. What I was doing wasn't acting mature though, I was just putting up a pretense by hiding my true self. Mature is when you feel confident in who you are and not the opposite. I was never able to make good friends with people I always masked myself in front of. My relationships with those people always remained distant and chaotic. It was when I stopped changing for others, that I found real friends that loved me for who I was.

When someone doesn't like you, you have this nagging feeling to do everything to make youyrself interesting and acceptable to them. You should remember that if they don't like you then you cannot waste your time changing for someone like that. When you change for people, they may start liking you, but you will start hating yourself. Hating yourself is the most unfair thing you could do to yourself. People who want you to change for them, are going to become bored of you even when you try to change. Save yourself the heartache and look for warning signs of a poisonous relationship. Don't change for anyone to love you because you will be the happiest with the one that doesn't want you to change. Change if it helps you grow, not if it helps others grow. Change only for yourself. Change if it helps you rise above the hate. Change if it helps you sleep better. Change if it helps you stay healthier and mostly, change if it helps you heal.