What Is To Be A Men

Being boy must be hard like they have to text us first buy food, pay the bill and always look cute with no makeup and have nice cars and have steady job and be tall and impress parents friends and brothers and sisters and be a gentleman always and never be in a bad mood!..

A man’s life isn’t easy as people think, probably because their concerns just aren’t voiced out.

So it’s considered normal when a guy needs to find a very “professional and classy” job and earn a very high salary by having a profession such as a “doctor” or an “engineer”, only to prove his manliness. Men are supposed to find a wife, produce at least one kid, and make the family proud by being well-established. The society expects that every guy must be “strong, courageous, independent, rich, intelligent, violent, insensitive, less expressive, assertive”.A man is often expected to juggle between his parents and his partner: It is believed that a good man is one who is neither a mamma’s boy nor a 'joru ka ghulam'.Being sensitive enough to support, but being strong enough to not expect support.Maintain the Tough Image and follow the notion “Boys don’t cry".

Why do we teach that it's perfectly fine for women to cry where is men are not supposed to?.. why on earth we have constructs and restrictions towards our boyfriend, father,brothers that man can't be weak!! Why did we tell them to "man up" and repress their emotions and hide their tears.

Toxic masculinity is direct result of Patriachy. It's when patriarchy ends up harming men too. Men's should not cry, shouldn't be afraid of anything, should protect others even when they are dying in themselves. The pressure on Men to rise, excel and support is immense. So many times they have suppressed their emotions and pain and gone to bed with heavy heart beacause sharing emotions is considered a weakness reserved only for womens. .

Toxic masculinity aspires to toughness but is, in fact, an ideology of living in fear: The fear of ever seeming soft, tender, weak, or somehow less than manly. This insecurity is perhaps the most stalwart defining feature of toxic masculinity.

We, as a society, must learn and educate the importance of characteristics and behaviors simply being human, not man-like and not female-like. Only when gender stereotypes and gender norms are put to rest than a society reach complete gender equality.

There is certainly a noticeable change in the upbringing of a girl compared to earlier times, however, the society does not want to change the same for boys.

It’s time we empower our men too! It is time to give them the same support that women gets!!!!