The Advice To "Achieve More" Makes Us Unhappy.

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Khushi B
Jun 07, 2019   •  43 views

People give this advice thinking that it might motivate people to reach new heights but in reality, this makes them believe that they haven't done enough which makes them unhappy. And now because of this belief, they don't even celebrate for what they have already achieved.

If I have to give an example of this situation then it would be our exam time. We all try to study hard and get a decent mark. But, just for a second, stop and observe. You would see two types of people one who get above 80 out of 100, let's call them A and other above 50 out of 100, let's call them B. Now, we expect that A would be happy but there is always someone in the crowd who really isn't happy or satisfied with their marks while B would be celebrating like it's their biggest achievement. And we all have seen a person like A in our life and said" yarr mai 60 laake itna khush hoon tu 90 laake bhi ni, ye topper log na kbhi khush ni hote apne marks se" (man! I am happy even though I scored 60 and you are being a sob ball even after scoring 90. Damn! These toppers are never satisfied with their marks!). The reason A is not happy because apparently their parent, teachers and elder people are not happy because they think that if s/he can score 90 then s/he can score 95 also and they should try hard and try to achieve more. This makes A believe that what they have scored isn't enough and should work even hard which eventually stops them from being happy with their marks even though they have actually scored very well.

Now, this was just one example. There is plenty of example in our daily life. This advice to "achieve more, be more" is actually bullshit. This makes us question our current position and makes us believe that what we currently have isn't enough.

And people end up living their own life thinking they aren't enough while they have actually achieved some amazing things.

People around them have always said them to achieve more and never allowed them to celebrate their little victories.

Yes, I agree in some situation it is good to actually try to work hard and achieve more. But only if you want to do it, not because people around you are saying "you can do better, try to achieve more". I also agree that our parent and teachers have good intentions for us and want us to be better but they also need to realize that sometimes it's okay not to be the best, sometimes it okay to celebrate what you have achieved.

And now it not just parent and teachers asking us to do this but social media too especially Instagram. It is filled with quotes like "do more, achieve more" "be more than today" etc.

Quotes like this make us believe that we "have" to do better and be better than everyone else. No wonder everyone is unhappy for what they have and always look for something better.

So what I am trying to say is that, while it's okay to improve yourself and get out of your comfort zone, you should also take time to stop and celebrate for what you already have. Be grateful and thankful for what you have already achieved in your life.

Don't let people be the guide for your happiness. If you are happy with what you are doing then don't let people bring you down with their comment that "you can do better than this".

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Yess!! Sampada thanks reading!
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Thanks akanksha😊
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Thankyou arvind and R.manoj Aiyer❤️
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Reality check!
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Really good work❣️
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Nice do read mine and provide suggestions
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Amazing