The Loosening Ties: The People You Left Behind
Jul 04, 2019 • 39 views
I remember those days when we jumped in the rain,
But now you are gone to a faraway land,
I do not whether you'll recognize me again,
As our bond seems to have crumbled like sand.
All of us might have a list of people we left behind at some point in life. Sometimes we regret it, sometimes we don't. Those people, who once seemed extremely important, sharing an unbreakable bond with you; but as the whip of time hits, they no more seem as important, the bond loosens, and you are completely alright without their company. This happens to everyone.
As young kids in school, the lunch break was no less than a ritual and the tiffin-partner was your best friend, the most important person in school then. But next year you are accompanied by a new tiffin partner, or probably an expanded friend circle. As kids, it is easy to let go of one as its an early learning stage where you are not choosy about friends. Anybody fun whom you like can accompany you! But how many of us still remember that tiffin-friend?
Even if you do or social media has forced you to, the bond you shared then is not the same now. If you stumble across that old old friend, you surely will be pleased to see them but a shade of awkwardness as you think 'what should talk about?' will persist.
The same applies to the friends you make when you are older, the people you work with and sometimes also your relatives.
One of the reasons responsible for loosening ties is that people change. The experiences life serves you with changes each of us. The old associates don't seem agreeable then. They are replaced with people having a temperament similar to yours. Your daily meetings with the old friends are replaced with rare phone calls, and the bond slackens.
Changing priorities and conditions is another reason. In our quest to achieve career goals or other material accomplishments we tend to forget those who once stood beside us. In this quest, we come across several people who are possible candidates for a better replacement of a forgotten friend.
A simple case for instance; your friend is not in your field of work makes keeping the bond alive difficult, if he moves to a different city or country the situation is even more intractable. After a few years, you will let go. Liking their social media posts and occasional 'hi! how are you' will be all that is left.
A new company might change you as a person for the good, be a wise guide and help you achieve goals; you might as well realize that the previous company was actually not a good one.
People come and go in our lives. But some bonds are worth being saved. Some people provide invaluable guidance to you, say that they would always be there when you are in need and do keep their word. Your parents, some true friends, and associates are those people.
In a life full of experiences and slackening ties, some strings are worth being held on to!
We all remeber our innocent friend who used to be fooled by some sly chaps right? Read my article "Innocent Or Foolish?"
Recommended
