Are You A Feminist?

The actual meaning of feminism is the belief that women should be given equal rights and opportunities as men and should be treated in the same way. Or the whole idea of giving women the same economic, political and social rights. But do we actually follow this definition when we post various posts on Instagram talking about how feminist are we and showing to the world what we believe feminism is? Let us look closely into this topic and you would be quite surprised by the fact that we have got the whole concept of feminism a little bit wrong.

In the earlier time when women were started to give equal rights in the society, for instance, equal rights to votes, to have autonomy, free from sexual violence, to hold public office, have equal rights in the family, etc., women started to strive more which was, of course, their right. Let us look at how we have understood Feminism as. A lot of times we have seen many girls creating feminist accounts and posting stuff like "You should not body shame anyone, what if we show bra straps because its completely cool since we all are girls and wear the same thing inside, we can wear whatever we want, we can stay out late as other guys do, you cannot question us if you don't question your son" and so on. Talking about all this we have actually confused feminism with discipline. Showing off bra straps has got nothing to do with how guys can wear whatever they want and how girls cannot. It is completely on how you carry yourself to be. It is also about Discipline. You wouldn't dare to go on a job interview like that right?

I have personally seen girls in my college, around me in trains, talking or what we call as "bitching" about what another person is wearing or pass comments on how a girl has to behave in public. There is a lot more in life than judging others behind their back while they call themselves feminists. We live in a generation where women empowerment is given more importance than feminism because of the way it has carried its importance. The point is that women degrade other women and that's a fact.

Now let us talk about our relationships. Most of us have this image of an ideal boyfriend, opening doors for us at arestaurant or pulling out a chair for us or giving us seats in the train and then crib about a man not saving them the seat. I mean why don't you start to do all of these mentioned for your man and stop expecting them to do everything for you? This in no way makes us a feminist if we just continue relying on men for every small thing.

Let us all understand that if we want the society to treat men and women equally, lets not just rely on men and start building ourselves up because change comes from within not from anywhere else. It wont make us any less Feminists at all.