Is Love Only An Illusion ?

There is something very magical and mystical about the experience of "falling in love." Emotions get stirred, imagination bursts to life and sparks fly igniting passion and unmistakable bliss. When the attraction is mutual, each person feels as if they are in "heaven." Suddenly, life has new meaning, a new purpose, and they are transported into the realm of the Gods. This is the collective ideal, or better yet our romantic ideal -- so much so that we all yearn for it.We mistakenly call this love, and many find themselves searching for someone to realize or actualize this ideal with. We believe that this ideal is what will complete us and make us happy. But things are not so cut and dry when it comes to the realm of Love and Eros. As you will see from the nature of the "Anima" and "Animus," this romantic ideal is only the beginning, the tip of the iceberg, as we begin our dance with the unconscious.In actuality, you can never love someone consciously, truly, deeply and madly without knowing the height and depth of their shadow.In love and relationships, authenticity is everything -- without it you have nothing.It is said that we fall in love with the most unexpected person in the most unexpected time.

Everyday sensitivity to our partners' vulnerabilities and strengths, in a steady trickle of small attitudes of appreciation, care, tolerance, and compassion, will cut through the illusion of certainty that blinds us to the real value of relationship:having someone who supports us through joy and turbulence, whosees beauty amidst our warts, and who, most importantly, helps us realize our humanity by allowing us tolove and support in kind.

Lots of research shows that love is more effective at bringing us together than keeping us together. You may have heard the saying, "Love is easy; relationships are hard." The truth is relationships are hard because love is easy.With the exception of anger and resentment, no emotional experience has more illusion of certainty than love. The need to feel certain is at least part of the reason we come to resent the most the people we love the most.Strong feelings and sensations of any kind override those of other people. When you have a terrible headache, it's hard to recognize that someone else has a backache. If you're resentful, you cannot appreciate the vulnerabilities of others. If you feel excited or euphoric, you are less likely to notice the homeless sleeping on the street. Love makes us less sensitive to the subtleties of our loved ones' emotional worlds in the rush to project our own onto them.

So shouldn't we fall in love?? Is it only an illusion??
Coming into this question just one thing to remember trust the right one n fall in love with him not only because people are saying, because you want him.