5 Reasons Why You Are Unhappy

You may like to think of happiness as a complex concept, which can be comprehended by reading large, hefty books or as a far- fetched spiritual state that only a handful of people can attain. In reality, though, being happy is not actually strenuous. You are not supposed to "understand" what happiness is in order to be happy, nor think of it as an ultimate goal in your life. Happiness is anything from an emotion that you feel ("I feel happy") to a state you are in ("I am happy").

Once you stop thinking of happiness as a miracle that happens by meditation, you will pretty much be happier than you already are. There are some minor habits we tend to have that go unnoticed which forms the basis of our unhappiness.

Why is it that you rarely feel happy? What causes unhappiness in one's life? These are some of the reasons why:

• Constant Need of Approval

Almost every human living on this planet looks for approval from as many people as they can or from a specific person/ group of people they look up to. If you are a part of this population, then this is indeed one of the main reasons to your misery. It is a simple probability fact that in a population of 7.7 billion, there will always be people who would approve of you and some who would not and to a certain part, you won't even matter. Therefore, it is alright if you are disapproved for something. Do not be sad about it.

• The Fear of Being Different

Try to recall how many times have you changed your opinion because each person of your group had the collective same thought that was different from yours. The need to fit in a social group generates the fear of being different from others. As a result, you originality starts to fade and you become an indifferent face in the crowd. This shift from who you really are to what you are projecting to others produces a lot of negative emotions in your life.

• Victimizing Yourself

You are not the only person going through hardships in your life. At first, you may get a lot of attention by telling how you are always treated wrong, how bad your life is and so on but gradually it would be the most annoying thing about you. By being a victim in every situation, you automatically declare the low level of your competence and high level of your helplessness. This creates negative energy around you which leads to unhappiness.

• Playing the Blame Game

It is not a healthy practice to blame the ground, shoes or low cheering of the crowd after losing a race. We have a common habit of smoothly sliding the blame on anything or anyone but not accepting our own fault. When we start living in denial, unhappiness is inevitably invited into our lives.

• Denying to Change

When you give every possible excuse to not exercise, you may initially feel relieved but as time passes, the regret of not doing something you could have done by slightly changing yourself, grows into anger and ultimately tosses happiness out of your life.

If you start observing these little habits in your life, get rid of them as soon as you can. Your life would be much happier than it used to be. It is not easy to accept that we look for approval, cry about insignificant things, make excuses or accuse someone else for our ailments but once we start thinking about it with an open mind, things would definitely change for better.