A Stranger'S Guide To Self Discovery

Life-it’s not easy. From the moment we are born to the moment we die we go through a rollercoaster of experiences. As we grow up, there is a constant development within us socially, emotionally, morally and cognitively. This development leads to the concept of ‘self’- who we are as individuals, what makes us unique, what are our strengths and weaknesses. Being human beings we always want to be the best versions of ourselves. Well at least we try to be.

I’m basically the “mom” friend of the group which means that I’m always either scolding my friends or giving them advice. I have listened to people talk about their problems and fears and I have noticed one thing that is evident- they don’t know themselves. Feelings of being a failure at life, or too old to do something I love or nobody cares about what I do, or that things are just going to get worse are feelings that I have personally felt and often find other people feeling. It’s not fun.

But, if there’s anything I’ve learned so far in my 20 years of existing is that even though things seem horrible now, they do work out. No, it does not happen through the magical power of the universe but from getting to know, well, you!

There was a time in my life where I really hated myself. I felt small, useless, and even pathetic. But one day I found this website called Wattpad and it changed my life.

I had always been interested in writing but never really thought about publishing my work. I uploaded a short story and after sometime it gained popularity. People were actually liking my story and asked for more! So, I continued to upload, and receive criticism. I learned then that I really liked to write and particularly liked to get into the minds of the characters. This developed a love for psychology in me and finally I found something that made me feel like me. Learning more about different behaviours really helped me take a look at myself. I realized that the reason I felt so unsatisfied with myself before was because I was too busy thinking about what I couldn’t do rather trying to know what I could.

Honestly, I haven’t found all the answers. I could get all philosophical and deep and say ‘stop trying to find the meaning of your life; create it’ but nah, I’ll end by saying this: Get to know you. Find your own ‘Eat, Pray Love’ journey. Eat exotic foods, go on solo road trips, or maybe just sit at home with a hot cup of tea and watch the rain fall. Realise that sometimes you are the toxic person in situations. You have flaws; don’t think of yourself as inadequate or insignificant. Experience every emotion you feel be it happiness, fear, sadness and understand the lesson that comes with it. Just, be you.