Effects Of Divorce On Children

A family is incomplete without children. A child is not only a part of the mother but also of the father. In some situations, they have to live with either of them. For a child, both the parents- Mother and father are equal to her. But at some crucial moments, she has to choose someone between them. The basic reason behind this is separation of parents by a phenomenon called Mutual Divorce. Divorce is a mutual, formal and legal ending of a marital relationship.In our society, as joint families are transformed into nuclear ones, the rise of this custom is also increasing.

Affects of divorce are tremendous. But the most affected victims of a divorce is children. Parents and children constitute the family and the children are mostly exposed to them. The sense of security, feelings are all imbibed by parents in their children. Parents are the closest and the most influential environment that a child is open to from the birth. The child grows up seeing their parents and if parents together contribute to give a child healthy and positive environment, he grows up into a sensible person. However, several and frequent conflicts between the parents results into bittering of the relationship that results into divorce. This prepares the two adults mental but the kids are too small at some situation to understand, which results into severe emotional shock. Seeing parents engaged in violent fights, harsh languages leaves a negative impact on the children. Another big aspect of divorce is, the child gets neglected by parents which results into dysfunctional attitude and relationships in his own life.

Divorce leaves a huge scar on the child's mind. He gradually becomes aggressive and disobedient our of grief. The child is forced to go through certain practical changes, like change in lifestyle and also faces severe adjustment problems because, he was never used to the physical absence of one parent. Having an imbalanced attribute of the family, a child misses out the essence and need of a complete family. Studies showed that children of divorced parents often face emotional breakdowns, academic problems and suffer from solitude. Living through a violent divorce can lead children towards drugs and other crimes. The child's relationship with other friends or family members is also affected. Divorce leaves a child with no expectations.

A child's mind can be moulded at a tender age. Great care should be taken and serious problems like divorce should be handled more maturely so that it doesn't creates a serious harm to them. Children are like blossoming flowers that ruins very easily if hurted. Similarly it is important for the parents to ensure that sensitive processes like divorce should be carried out in a smoother way. And another thing I would love to mention, my mother always says, " A marriage is like a house. When light bulbs go out, when there's no light in house, we don't go to buy a new house. We try to solve the problem by fixing them."I agree that some relationships become treacherous to live in,no expectations persists in them,but we should also take care of the younger ones who's absorbing everything from our actions.Give another try, let's give importance to one another and help to develop a better family.And, Handling with care is important!