Everyone deserves to be loved and it's a beautiful feeling .If we are on planet earth we must have a purpose to our living I firmly believe. Being a 20-year old I'm quite young commenting on anyone's notions about love but I Firmly believe that we should choose career over love !!
But I would like all of you'll to ask one question to yourself " Would you ever marry a boy whose unemployed but you're madly in love with him?". Let's be practical you cannot survive by only being in love. You need money to live your life . Yes, you can always support your partner but that should come in all terms Financially ( if needed), morally and emotionally and always be by their side. The choice between having a career or making time for love is an extremely personal and individual decision.
Careers and love fulfill us in different but important ways. Having a solid career gives us a sense of accomplishment and self-worth. Many people develop their entire identity based upon what they do, elevating their career to a level of great importance in their lives.
Then there are those who measure their success in terms of having a pleasant and rewarding home life. They develop their identities based upon the accomplishments of their children and derive their self-worth through the love and support of a spouse.
1. Your Career Maybe More Important When You are Young:
Many people these days focus on careers first and family later. The reason is that, while you are young and unencumbered, you have the time and energy to fully devote yourself to a career. If you have lofty career ambitions while you are young, it may indeed be the time to start making progress towards those goals.
Once you get married and begin to build a family, much of your time and energy by necessity – become devoted to your family.
Many people who accomplish great success in their careers when they are young, and establish themselves in a secure position, are then more willing and comfortable later on to devote themselves to the family. By the time they do settle down, they are more prepared to handle the responsibility.
2. Falling in Love can be Better When You are Older:
More and more people these days are choosing to wait when it comes to making decisions about family. It is not unusual for people to delay marriage until their late 30’s or even their early 40’s. Delaying family decisions allows you to be better prepared for those obligations, and creates a better likelihood that you are in touch with your most important goals and values. You have had the opportunity to completely grow up, greatly reducing the chances of feeling like you are “missing out.” You have had the chance to purge the foolishness of youth from your system and are now confident with the wisdom of maturity.
3. Choosing Both:
If you can find a work-life balance that allows you to experience the joys of love and maintain a successful career, you will have a truly happy and rewarding life. A loving family at home can help you celebrate all of your successes, and bolster your confidence through your failures. There are many people out there reaping the tremendous rewards that come with including love and work in their lives and finding the balance that allows for both. I know one such couple and I take them as true Goals !
A life that only has room for a career, or that includes a consuming love that stifles your personal development, is likely not a lifestyle that is healthy or fulfilling. Our personal needs and feelings of self-worth need to be met, which is normally gained from having a good career. Our hearts and souls need to be nourished, and we need companionship to support us through life, which normally is derived from loving relationships.
But, right now being a 20 year old we should all choose career over love becuase that's what matters the most and that's what your future will be based upon. Being in a relationship is not bad but always be with someone who helps you grow and motivates you towards your goal not with someone who tries to steal away your Individuality or freedom !