Be Honest To Yourself

In order to succeed in every sphere of life, we must speak the truth to ourselves. It is rightly said that the reality denied comes back to haunt. Whether we realize it or not, most of our past, present and future depends on the thoughts that we have. We might seek short lived comfort by lying to ourselves, but in the long run, the reality will have to be faced. Honesty to oneself is of great advantage. It not only helps to build our character but also boosts our confidence as by introspection we are able to scrutinize ourselves and ameliorate our lifestyle.

But why do we lie to our self? The simplest answer is that by lying to ourself, we are able to stay inside the comfortable cocoon of illusion and protect our self-esteem. Also, this happens to be the simplest way of avoiding the responsibility for the consequences of our actions. For example, a disloyal husband would comfort himself by saying- “If only my wife had loved me more I would have never had to seek love out of the wedlock.” Similarly, an undutiful child will look for faults in his parents and never within himself.

HOW DO WE STOP LYING TO OURSELF?

1. Start writing about yourself in a journal-Not only this helps you face the truth, but it also helps you understand the chain of events that led to your agony and hence make it easier for you to work on your character.

2. Examine yourself honestly-Talk to yourself, Ask yourself what you are running away from and then conquer it. Always remember there is a reason why the brain has been placed above the heart in our body. Think logically. Act logically.

3.Find out the difference between needs and wants- The inability of most people to find a clear difference between the both is the reason behind the agony of maximum people around us. For example- It's our need to perform well at our job, however, it is our want to go out partying late, It is our need to stay healthy, however, it is our want to grab a pizza.

Great things happen when you are honest to yourself. Not only you excel in your private life but you also ace in your professional life. Life is well sorted with an honest mind being honest to one’s conscience. Remember fake comfort is the arch enemy pf success and peace.