“You have to keep breaking your heart hear until it opens.” Rumi
Romantic relationship, seeking love and finding a soulmate or “the one” is what a lot of people strive for. The idea of dating and experiencing true love can be likened to a dream come true. With tinder and other online dating apps, the dating pool hasn’t only increased but it has become accessible even to those who are antisocial. Sometimes the fairy tale ends and leaves one not only single but shattered with heartbreak.There is no sugar coating it heartbreak is a b*#@&& to put it mildly.
There is the type of heartbreak one feels they will never heal from. During this heartbreak you see yourself dissolve, melt or even become the person you cannot recognize. The pain is just too much to bear. You listen to sad songs, watch “Why did I get married?” and similar movies over and over again but the pain doesn’t seem to get better. You go back and forth researching how to mend a broken heart, how to get over heartbreak, how to heal from a breakup and so on.
Even though it may feel like the pain will not end or subside with time it does. Sometimes we may wonder if getting involved in a romantic relationship is worth it if at the end it leaves us heartbroken. Heartbreak is not only necessary but is very important for growth. The pain doesn’t last forever and if we allow ourselves to feel the pain it helps us become the best version of ourselves.
Here are the benefits of heartbreak:
It may sound weird but healing from a broken heart heals other underlining issues and wounds incurred throughout one’s life. Brutal honesty with ourselves and serious introspection helps us to be aware of our personality traits hidden for a long time. Heartbreak brings to surface most of the issues we don’t normally think we have such as co-dependency, insecurities, jealousy and etc.
The process of healing a broken heart may feel painful and tedious but once healed one is gifted with empathy and compassion. Again it may sound clichéd but think about it; after enduring that much pain and suffering would you want anyone to go through a similar experience? The pain of heartbreak teaches oneness and the connection we share with other human being and other creatures in the universe.
Self-love is really underrated considering the importance and necessity in our daily lives. The process of healing a heartbreak is likened to a journey whose destination is reached once one attains healing. During this journey, we learn to be forgiving, understanding and compassionate with ourselves. This is very important especially to people who were never taught how to love themselves. Cultivating self-love helps us with confidence much needed to live a “happy” life, moreover, it helps us set healthy boundaries not only with other people but with ourselves.
Painful as it might be, heartbreak is necessary for our soul growth and evolution.