I have a pal in my hostel who always try to relate topics like 'Communism' , 'Pink Floyd' and 'Child Labour' altogether, i.e. with no clue what to say he begins to say something and then looses the way and perhaps results into 'Stephen Hawking' , another different topic with no clue. I'm trying to tell that my title of this article has gone like that almost. So, before further confusions let me set the relation up.
Due to inflated population, enhancement of education, greater access to opportunities and most importantly miscellaneous consciousness through easily accessible information bundles , it is difficult to snatch the spotlight on oneself if and only if one either can't devote extraordinary labour to make oneself exceptional or doesn't inherent some gift of the Almighty since was born. Social media has now become a quickest and cheapest platform (rather I would say it's used cheaply) to express yourself , to show whatever you've because it's only SM where you can get all types of audience. You'll even be 'liked' if you just inform hell a lot of people about your constipation in morning.
Now-a-days , it's quite impossible to be exceptional , it's quite impossible to fix the eyeballs on you, because of the cut-throat competition. So you need to avail a new way right? To charm people, to attract them? Who doesn't love compliments? Who doesn't care for sympathy? So how's it if you can prove yourself a struggling person being burdened with a lot of troubles? Or how's it if you can show yourself as a container of sone extraordinary quality , or an exceptional , cultivable personality?
Just for an example , Syd Barrett was a person with lots of failure in life ; he led a life full of grief but yes , he is the establisher of Pink Floyd , he introduced us to a genre named "Progressive Rock.' Don't you really feel that he's overrated? What about Roger Waters or Richard Wright who composed or wrote those incredible songs?
This happens because Syd has something to pull sympathy, he died , being immersed in a dark web of life. The other 4 members are nohow less than him but they're not attractive personality to catch this sympathetic attention. It's beacuse they led a normal life. What is so luring in something which is normal? To be spotted you've to be abnormal or extraordinary. As I mentioned earlier , it's not easy to be extraordinary but you can derive a peculiar personality which can stun people for a moment through pretention about yourself only.
Doubtlessly social media is the best place to apply this trick because it's all about chatbox and news feed i.e. no path of verification. Certainly it succeeds to be an USP. In most cases pessimistic personalities are preferred because they're also sympathy-attracter. Man is in need of love , badly . More specifically they're in need of attention. They love to see somebody surprised at them only. They love to see somebody feeling sorry for them.
Now, it doesn't wait to be told that this trick is apllied more especially in case of opposite gender because of pure psychological reasons which I don't think wait to be explained. But what's the evil? The evil of it was once indicated by some political villain - A lie can be turned into truth through random propaganda. It's an evil when you yourself start to think it correct. It's threatening when your pretention starts to gain your belief. A "Phlegmatic" personality is awesome from outside but if you try to copy it , it may soon turn into "Melancholic" character. It's one of the greatest cause why the chambers of psychiatric counsellors are too much of crowdy. The fake world of social media , where emotion has both good demand and supply, is ruining lives, more specifically, well-beings. It's an aggressive and unbearable hunger to pretend yourself extraordinary, it's like a drug.
We used to have this tendency in childhood ; we used to pretend ourselves to be some heroes or cartoon characters we loved. But why now? It's because of our mental age is going down temporarily. The logical part of our brain (Left Half circel) is being idle. We are running for something which can give us instant delight. It's ok perhaps but.......... Beware guys......!
Hope I didn't attain a coordination failure like my hostel-mate......