Why Do People Play Mind Games In Relationships?

People usually play mind games because they are insecure, immature, or have a manipulative type of personality. They are not mature enough to be in a stable relationship. Most of these problems are due to personal insecurities, lack of trust and the ability of not connecting with another person in a healthy way.

We learn from many couples that how confusing and frustrating dating relationships can be. It is quite hard to understand your significant other, especially when he/she plays mind games. It can get in the way of an intense meaningful relationship and can lead to breakup.

It's not true that only boys play mind games. To be fair, girls play mind games too. There may be a numerous reasons why boys or girls play mind games, and sometimes they don’t even realize because they are aren't aware about their own need.

Some basic mind games people play are like not texting or calling back in a reasonable amount of time, playing hard to get, making someone jealous, uncertain about where the relationship is going, silent treatment. Do you use mind games when dating? If yes, you are making the dating process harder for yourself and others, and it might be ruining your chances for finding somebody special.

Couples use mind games to selfishly manipulate each other so they satisfy their needs. This may include: sex, always having someone by their side, having someone to adore them, a need to control someone, a hope that partner will heal their deepest hurts, in order to show off to others, having someone to listen to them. Not all these needs are wrong but the way you decide to meet your needs is matters.

It’s very important to confront the person directly by telling them, that you know the game is being played and ask what exactly their motives are in your relationship. This will lead to two things: Either they will stop the games with you and move on to someone else, or they won’t mess up with your head and heart. You don’t need to waste your valuable time with mind players.

It is true that they are themselves unaware of their manipulative and game-playing ways. But always remember that just don’t simply listen to what they say, watch what they do. By doing this you will prove them that you are in need for the relationship and they will continue keep hurting you by being a game player.

To some people it is merely like a challenge or game, to just check if whether they can get a guy or girl to like and care for them. They think that if they can get a girl or guy to fall for them, then they might be pretty cool. All of this comes from a low self-esteem and an unawareness of how they hurt others.

But all of this is temporary, as they ditch once they know the person they have been pursuing actually likes them. Then they are on for next hunt. Sadly, many people have very little insight into what they are doing and why. Well if this is the case the best solution is to confront and move on.

Other times people play with your mind in an attempt to know about your feelings for them. It takes so much courage to share our deepest needs of wanting to love and be loved and then getting rejected in some way. You may feel you are betrayed, but perhaps the other person is nervous to make the first move.

For years, there’s always been pressure on guys to be the initiator and the girl to be the responder. Remember a lot of guys act macho and tough, but deep inside they also are afraid of rejection. Wondering how to move things forward it's better to define the relationship. This allows you to talk about it in a non-threatening way. Being emotionally open isn’t easy, but it might have GREAT rewards or at the very least allow you to move on.