We’ve all seen the moral dilemma in Bollywood movies when the girl loses the boy because she's focused on her career and is unable to give time to her relationship and attain its needs. You're happy at times because the character is succeeding and prioritizing professional life over personal life. But it has the sad part too, of the couple being separated.
The ambitious career woman, can probably relate to these romantic stories. This situation comes in every person's life where he/she doesn't want to give up on their career and doesn't want to be lonely too. Or perhaps you want to have that so called "Shaadi ka ladoo", but you aren't sure whether you will be successfully conquering the to-do list after your engaged.
Firstly you need to get your man on the same page. As we know that communication is oxygen to relationships, so you need to communicate with your partner even if you’re super busy. Try sharing your concerns about balancing your time with your partner. Remember you are a team, and be aware of your end goal. But before doing all of this, check out whether your partner is really worth your sacrifices. If your relationship isn’t going anywhere, maybe it’s not worth stressing so much over the balance.
Remember, we don’t get time, we have to make out time. Make time for each other and really be there,don't ditch. No matter how much busy you are at work, you always have your personal time for your loved ones. Find, rather dig for opportunities to spend time together, and don’t let it pass. You might not be able to make out time due to long hours of work, but you can manage to do at least have late- night dinner with your significant other. In the long run, even if you have to take a leave for a vacation day to get some quality time, it's definitely worth it.
When you do take time for each other, be there completely. Put your phones, laptops and work away for the present moment. Even an hour of totally focusing on your partner can keep a relationship strong for an entire week.
In this long run evaluate your priorities. If things are stable at your work place, then try and give time your partner. If you’re worried about maintaining a good reputation at work, pour a little extra into your job. Make clear to partner as well as boss and co-workers that they are important part of your life. There are times where you need to work late as well as leave home early to help your partner. In this situation both the parties would understand and not take it personally.
Don’t forget that your partner is probably working hard on his career too. So support unconditionally. Remember that he too has things that are personally important, where he’ll crave for your support. Assure that you're giving adequate attention to your partner’s priorities while you’re focusing on balancing your professional and personal life. If you show unconditional support, you’ll definitely get it in return.
Stay connected throughout the day as the strong relationship always lurks in the back of your mind. It’s not just related to having dinner or drinks after work. Find opportunities to connect while you’re apart. This can be as simple as quick texting during your morning coffee break, a sweet phone call in the afternoon during lunch hours, or a weekly lunch date. These little moments will strengthen your relationship while you’re balancing it.
No relationship works without sacrifice. Your job here is to tandem where the sacrifices should be made by discussing with your partner. Also remember that this won't happen immediately. It will take time to recognize your needs. And never forget the sacrifices that your partner has made for you.Learn to apologize and forgive your partner for their mistakes. Every couple faces these challenges. Holding grudges and staying angry will only make things more stressful for you. A successful relationship requires patience, humility, and forgiveness which will blossom your relationship and make the foundation of your relationship more strong.