To be Emotionally Intelligent is one of a kind,
IQ doesn't work in solitude, hope you don't mind.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
So, Emotional Intelligence by definition can be stated as understanding the emotions of self, handling them (after being aware of them) and also understanding the emotions of others, trying to manage them as well (in a positive way of course, we aren't talking about manipulation here)
And what does it mean when someone has a good EQ?
Daniel Goleman, An American psychologist gave these five elements/characteristics in order to define Emotional Intelligence
1. Self Awareness
2. Self Regulation
3. Motivation
4. Empathy
5. Social skills
Now we'll go through each one of them with the help of short poems (because poems are love)
Self Awareness
Once we come to know
What are we feeling
Exactly and not vaguely
"When I Understand and identify the meaning
Of my emotions completely
That's when I am
Self Aware"
Self Regulation
Once we know
What is the emotion
We won't let our thoughts or actions flow
With its power
"For example if a negative emotion is triggered
What will I have to do?
I have already figured
That's when I am
Self regulated"
Motivation
The medicine to cure pessimism
The guide for optimism
Doing what you love or loving what you do as they say
Motivation can help us here every day
"When I am inspired intrinsically
And I can motivate others too
Without losing my cool not many times or a few
That's when I am
Motivated"
Empathy
This one is my favorite
It is one of the best qualities people can have, till date
Putting yourself in the situation of others (of course mentally)
Understanding what others are going through
Showing care, showing consideration, compassion
And for the behavior of others
You don't need an explanation
Being empathetic may not sound as an easy decision
But if you have it in you, it is the best provision
"If I know and have the capability to understand others in all situations
That's when I am
Empathetic"
Social Skills
"Good Interpersonal Relationships"
The three words I can use here
Being trustworthy
People can trust you with no fears
Effective interactions
With everyone and not only your peers
Tackling misunderstandings
With dear ones and also who aren't so near (I am not talking about location)
"When I have and I can maintain good interpersonal relationships
That's when I have
Social Skills"
So, If one has all these elements or qualities or characteristics in herself/himself, then that person can be called as Emotionally Intelligent or someone with a good EQ
Good news- EQ can be learned and developed with practice!
So let's try to be Emotionally Intelligent, because when EI works life is kinda balanced (both personal and professional)