This post is gender neutral and trusts me you’ll feel comfortable reading it.
Loving yourself is so important that I can’t stress enough about it. You can only give out love if you have it within yourself.
It’s high time you practice that love on yourself first before giving to others:
The first thing is that self-love DOES NOT mean being full of yourself or hating on others or not considering other people important.
We all are equal, remember that, don’t consider anyone superior to you. They are what they are because they have worked on their personality and confidence. You don’t have to be exactly like someone. You are unique. You are different. You are one of a kind!
Appreciate and be kind to yourself. If someone talks to you the way to talk to yourself, you’ll be disheartened. The person you listen to the most is no one but you. So make sure you gas yourself up! Because sweetheart, we are all worth it!
Don’t be with people who like drama or are toxic for you. I know, it might be tempting and something difficult to get out of. But trust me, this will help! These people are blocking the positivity in your life.
One of the Ted talks that I loved included the phrase, ‘fake it till you make it’. This doesn’t mean you have to be a fake person and all your emotions don’t have to be real. But instead, it means, acting confident when you’re not, acting happy when you’re not, thinking positive when you are not able to. Self-love is a practice and it’ll happen step by step.
Mediate, as much as you can. Be in the right headspace. Be aware. Focus on your breathing. Do this every day and see how things change. I’ve tried it myself and it helped me so much to calm down during my exam time.
If you have been feeling a certain way whether good or bad, since a while, then you should write down your feelings and see if there is a pattern. Try to let it all out, call a friend, communicate, take help. You are not alone.
Last but not least, do not try to impress anyone! Try using that energy and hard work for yourself. No matter how cool it looks or how much desperate you feel, that’s just not something you should be doing. People will get impressed and attracted to you automatically if you are confident and giving yourself time and importance. You can be a role model for a lot of people!