Why Pulling Off The Grief?

We as humans are so much blinded by the notion of happiness that we keep on over expecting the same at every corner we cross. Not all things can be labeled as happy streams, some have to be cold as well. We try shaking and shaving negativity and gloom without even bearing the pain. We are attracted to happiness to the strength that we find hard thriving without it.

Getting into a scenario that pours down gloom and pain can’t be avoided. If someone speaks of mere ‘moving on’, trust me it isn’t a good idea though. Grief is something that causes intense sorrow, torment, and heartache. It takes years to pin off the pain but can’t be subsided. We do lose our loved ones, grandparents, parents, friends, children and significant other this doesn’t mean we are pulled back from being happy instead it means carrying the feeling bad and growing with it.

Author Nora McInerny, who lost her unborn child, her father, and her husband, all within a few weeks in 2014, says in TedTalk, “We don’t move from our grief. We move forward with it.”

It is important to understand grief is never a negative sentiment. It is the sum total of all the conflicts that go on inside us when we are in despair. We lie numb because of a sudden bang and everything shatters the very next moment to this. We try pulling together the pieces, we try holding them affirm, waiting for them to get assembled but all in vain. We try navigating the world without our loved once and we realize that everything is unreal without them standing beside us.

As said, ‘sharing is caring’, it is important to talk about the pressing feeling to the one who doesn’t lie about understanding your pain. Trust me, this makes your soul feel lighter than before. People fail to deal with grief because they keep feeding their heads that things are fine when they actually aren’t. Acceptance of pain doesn’t abolish it, but it decreases the intensity with which it hits. It is difficult to deal with the losses yet being honest to self is a positive pace to take.

Surrounding yourself with people who care do elevate the mood and cut downs loneliness. Switching lone lanes is fine but isolation isn’t any healthy step to deal with self remorse and it doesn’t ensure long-run healing as well. Allow your people to be aside you when you get low, cry to them and they will back you for sure.

Time doesn’t a heal, instead, it lowers the impact that the pain has had. Suffering is inevitable and some broken bars can’t be mended. That’s is what it means to be a real human. Learning to live with the faint heartache makes us appease well with feeling lifted.