Life After Death

Throughout everything that's happened, I still find myself in disbelief that anyone could possibly do the things he does. I still find myself with that small, inkling of hope that he could change.

I filed for the motion on the basis that my ex lost his job. He made statements to me about his intentions to not get another full time job. Remembering how badly we struggled in the year without child support…

The court date was scheduled for a month away. I had hoped he'd take it as a warning. Get another job. But he took it as a month of free for all attacks on me. Following me, calling me my phone, calling work, making threats, knowing exactly where I was, accusing me of anything under the sun.

I should've known better.

Most of what I said was about everything he had done since I filed the motion. Which wasn't allowed in as a basis for relocation.

Everything he said was either outright false, or a misdirected statement.

He presented a check that he had given me as proof of payment of child support.

I had asked him at the time why he wasn't submitting it through the state. One of magistrates had told him in court any payments outside of the state would be considered a gift. I was chided for not accepting it.

The magistrate asked him if he was on time. He answered he paid nidway through the month.

Even if he had made the payment through the state. He was neither on time, nor caught up.

He said I told him I'd look into their insurance coverage and wouldn't answer him. He presented a paper showing he'd applied for their coverage through the state.

They've had secondary coverage through Medicaid…which he was well aware of and would not tell me whether or not their primary insurance was still active.

He presented a calendar highlighting his days with the kids and said that I've been punishing him for not having a job by not allowing him to see the kids.

He would cancel. Wouldn't give me any days until the day before. Then one day dropped them off at school believing they'd never see him again, and it was mommy's fault.

He'd told the court that I do have family here. And his older daughter lives here.

My closest family lives 52 miles from our current residence. His adult daughter rarely sees him or the children.

I was not given an opportunity to respond.

My motion was denied.

I have filed an appeal, listed my exceptions to the magistrates ruling and asked for a rehearing on the matter.