Nurture Yourself

"some lights,

only you can bring in your life."

Are you one of those who has constantly been told to step outside the circle you've carved out for yourself? Are you one of those who is scorned for being an isolated person, and who's mocked for remaining cocooned in her/his own self? If you are one of those, then so many times people like you and me are either marked as too arrogant or too gloomy.

I assure it's the most common thing we undergo each time we refuse to be in a larger circle, each time we refuse to engage actively with the world outside and each time we wish to keep ourselves to ourselves inside our peaceful little world. However, our peace gets throttled each time others confront us for our aloofness.

"But canceling plans to read is okay. Skipping a party for the gym is okay. Staying home to cook is okay. Let's encourage it and respect self-improvement."

Trust me, saying no to spending time with others is as passable as saying no to spending time alone. It's alright to pick up one of the choices laid in front of us. It's alright to spend time working on yourself whether you choose to work out physically to attain a level of self-confidence or mentally preparing yourself to untangle the messed up strings of mind. It's completely alright to dedicate your hours towards your goals rather than being in the world which exhausts your mind and body.

When you are in a tough situation and communication is called for, it’s important to attempt to downgrade the conflagration, take it down a notch, and get some reflective “time out” for yourself.

So many times we are told that we ought to engage more with the world but never are we told to engage with our ownselves.

"Become aware of what's really worth your energy!"

Spending time alone neither makes you self-centred nor arrogant. It doesn't make you a person who thinks highly of oneself or a person who thinks only of oneself. Spending time alone indulges you in self-preservation. It means that you care about yourself enough. It means you prefer peace and quiet rather than getting stuck amidst worldly havoc and tumult.

"Focusing on your mental and emotional well-being and doing things that help you grow does not make you selfish."

You don't have to care about other people's opinion of you. You don't have to worry about the comments they would make for they will never understand your journey. They will never understand how much you have changed and how much you have grown. They won't ever get your transformation into a better being. Let them be and let yourself be!

Be kind and generous to yourself, then only you can be kind and generous to other people. If you don’t take care of your own wants and needs, and become able to articulate them in relationship with another, you run the risk of getting worn down while your inner light, your spirit, begins to dim.

"An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly."