Fear is a marvelous thing, isn’t it?
It fills us with a sensation we have never felt before and the thoughts which could make our spine shiver.
We recklessly work towards achieving something, work so hard that it makes us forget about other things which existed, which makes us sink in the depths of its essence. We dream and we make that dream a part of ourself. We give that dream every thought of ours, every mind of ours and every sweat of ours, sidelining other little things which would have given us a moment’s pleasure.
Fear of losing that dream or the fear of failure makes us feel as if our life is falling apart. It makes us feel as if our life has no meaning without it. Our fear of losing it makes us lose a part of ourself!
Fear never misses a single chance of tricking us in other mischievous ways. One of the biggest fears comes in the form of losing a person; a person who might be closely associated with us or might not be. And the fear of losing someone is manifested in two ways-
Firstly, there is a fear of losing a person who does not have a mutual fear of losing us. The fear is the fear of rejection. It makes one feel unwanted and unworthy of themselves. It snatches away all their confidence and faith, leaving them utterly hopeless and helpless.
Secondly, there is a fear of losing a person who does have a mutual fear of losing us. Fear of losing someone we had spent all our lives with or someone we hope spending rest of our lives with makes us vulnerable and anxious. It fills us with every thought and drives us to the verge of ending it all; of ending all the possible ways of feeling pain because we do not wish to acknowledge what it feels like losing a person we love.
What can we make out of fear? Fear is destructive, obviously for it takes away all the power one has inside them.
It is destructive for it makes one lose a part of oneself.
Fear is deeply associated with something we deeply care and feel about. We don’t have fear where there is no string attached. Fear comes from our profound bond with something and someone and each fear rips us apart and makes us lose each bit of ours.
What can be done to escape it? How can one not fear?
The answer is one cannot escape fear!
“Be fearless”, they say.
But is it that easy? Is it that easy to free ourselves from the things and people we have given our life for?
No! It isn’t.
Fear is inevitable and resides inside each one of us. It resides to remind us of our vulnerability as human beings. It is there to remind us how powerless we are and how little it is in our control to free ourselves from the connections we have made over time.
Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear!
Have the courage to face your fears, then only you can be completely free!