“hey. I gleaned that you write on feminism! Can I ask you a
question?”
“sure, shoot!”
“there is a man standing in front of you. This man is supremely rich.
He is the fat cat of this city, knows as the glitterati. BUT, he is a
rapist. Would you marry him if you had the chance to?”
“yes, I would”
“why? Because he is worth a bundle?”
“maybe?”
“that is, it. You plumped for money and women choose money, use
men and then you feminists have a problem and rant about it later?”
“feminism has an issue about the fact that, my opting for money is a
weightier problem than him being a rapist. Even if I associate myself
in this marriage, why do I have to be the powerless creature? did we
sign some contract of being the malleable, inferior, foolish and
submissive character all our lives?”
The woman’s movement was on no occasion about delight and
jollity. That does not connote that it is about sorrow and melancholy.
It has always been and will always be is about vexation, resentment
and revolution. It was never about ranting and mithering. It was
never about we enunciating about being victimised. Women never
coveted a man to save a girl’s skin who is being raped by 5 men in a
deserted place. Either promulgate some wisdom in such men or
enfranchise and make known to them that they are not fabricated to
be subtle. The rostrum ennobled for women was never for women to
whimper out of weakness, but to show how cogent and firm they can
be moreover unyoke other women so that they never have to cry.
The question for this composition is that, WHAT ARE WE ACTUALLY
FOCUSSING ON?
Are we focusing on an idea that women need consolation? Are we
spotlighting that women need to be spoon fed valour and
fearlessness? Are we focusing on the gospel that women are
unfailingly on the dependant side of the picture?
HOW WOULD YOU PICTURE A SUPERMOM?
I am positive that you have conjured up the picture of a woman who
undertakes all the household labour, takes care and discharges her
duties towards her children and goes for her job. How much
commiseration and pity did collect for this woman? Moreover, a
supermom and a superwoman are beings who adore their kids,
husbands, in laws etc. unconditionally. They are mellow, forgiving,
adaptable, amiable and what not. They are the crowds who are
intended to be strong but sadly it is impossible to honour strength if
they do not understand what it is to truly be strong?
HOW WOULD YOU PICTURE A SUPERDAD?
The abstraction is clear! They earn and are affluent. They are the
white hat to their kids. They are ambitious. Though they have their
jobs, they still come home and pay attention to their children and
love and handle the family. It is the women in the family sacrificing
for this heroic title, but who cares. LOOK AT THAT SUPERHERO!
Is that similar to the portrait you fashioned in your mind?
While talking about women, we focussed on how dazzling she was to
give up her everything and work for the biased foundation created
by herself and people around her. The fact that she chooses
everyone over herself makes her a hero. The fact that she is
adaptable and that she always gives up her hunger and thirst for the
sake of the situation makes her a hero.
When we talked about superdad, how come we talked about the
qualities such as being ambitious and becoming superior with the
sacrifices every lady makes? Why not the same for women? How
come we do not consider successful women on these terms? Not
valuing, abusing and bringing upon violence after all this is in total
isolation. But duhhh! that is how supermoms are, they got to clutch
these chores in their life and only then they will be a strong muscled
supermom.
This is what we are focusing on and this HAS TO CHANGE! Don’t pity
us. We don’t want that anymore. Start associating militancy,
potency, power, zeal and substance with women. Feature the
stronger part in you and let the defensive side of yours rest.
Women are not designed to keep her body and soul together while
she is mistreatment. She cannot be watched to love unconditionally
when she is hampered with conditions every day. She cannot respect
you unquestionably when every night, she is questioned about her
existence. Women are not to be bartered out on such disastrous
ideas which are currently being focused on.
There is no such thing as strong woman. Let me correct it to just, WOMAN.
We are just WOMEN, and this speaks in volumes for itself. The word
woman is synonymous to every idea of competence and vigour. It’s time
we drizzle some perception on the specs we wear and clean mulishness
stuck on it so that, we can focus on the right things to empower women.
I am a woman who is able to say……
I am strong because I build,
I am not strong because I can cater guilt.
Yes, as a woman I can love and care,
But don’t let it be just a women’s quality,
BECAUSE THAT IS JUST NOT FAIR!
If I don’t become a bride, I will surely be eyed
I should be able to say……
Whether I am married or not a bride,
I cannot be pushed always to the backside,
Because I deserve to always be on the broadside.
After all, Irony is just another form of tyranny,
Want to know more?
Ask every women in agony. ----------------ACHINTYA K.