Different Signs That Other’S Opinions Trouble You Too Much-

The society is a web for us. There are so many things to abide by- customs, religion, laws etc and in middle of all that there pops up human beings. Yes! Human beings , they are the controller of our lives. These are some of the points that shows that youworry too much what ohers think of you -

1.You try to please everyone-
This is the foremost reason that comes to my mind. If you are from a group of persons, who tries to please everyone, then you definitely fall under this category.You are too cautious that you can’t take the risk of hurting others. Your all actions are moulded to please everyone. To make someone happy and to please everyone are different concept. Please don’t merge both. When you try to please everyone, then your half life spend in serving others. you are not able to value your opinions.

2.When you do something that you don’t like-
Many a times we face a situation in which we don’t want to do a particular thing. But then also we can’t make others unhappy. In order to please them we do things which are against our wishes for example- you started drinking or smoking because your friendsinsisted you to do so, you don’t want to go for a party but you go, you dressed up not according to your wish and later you felt sad etc there are multiple tasks which we encounter on daily basis.You do all so that others don’t think wrong about you.

3. You are afraid to say what you really believe – Human beings sometimes struggle a lot to find out their actual thoughts, opinions and views. But after identifying their feelings also, they don’t put them at front. They are afraid to say what they really believe. This can be due to many reasons like they are afraid of being judged by others, or they fear that their opinions will be viewed as wrong etc.

4. You spend time with people whom you don’t like- This is so true, we human beings are so thirsty of love that sometimes we agree to be with people whom we don’t like.We spend our precious time with them. We are always worried what others will think of us. So even if we don’t like someone’s company we remain with them.

5. You can’t say no - You also have a fear of being left alone. And in order to overcome that fear , you stop saying no. You do such things which also you don’t like. For example- someone offers you a drink and if you say no, then the next question comes ‘abhi tak bacchee hi ho , bade kab hoge yaar’. (I mean really in what sense your drinking habit makes you a grown up man??) and you take this on ego and end up drinking etc. You agree to do so and later found yourself in the trouble.

Stop overthinking. You can't control everything.

6. You imagine that people are upset with you- Our mind is so trapped in the thoughts all the time, that we often assume that people are upset with us . We assumea lot of things on our own and when we see the reality it is totally different.

If you are able to match with the above mentioned qualities, then please stop giving worth to other’s opinions. Listen other opinions but not at the cost of sacrificing you’re Will. If you will run this way of valuing others opinions more over our opinions then your opinions will be lost forever.