Communication: The Key to your child
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” wrote George Bernard Shaw. Communication is the way people learn and share information. It is a way for people to send and receive messages. We use different kinds of communication to pass our ideas and feelings to others.
Why iseffective communication soimportant today?
Easy and fluent communication is an important part of being human. It helps people to learn, grow and build relationships to achieve success in life.
A deeper understanding develops when people can talk openly about what is on their mind and leads to effective communication. This in turn helps families to share important and relevant information about children.
Family communication is important because it helps members to express their wants, needs, and concerns to each other. It is only through communicationthatfamilymembers can resolve the unavoidable problems and conflicts that arise in allfamilies.
Importanceofgood communication skills in children
From the time they are born, children begin to communicate and laterthey learn speech and language. To help a child to be able to express itself, it is important to nurture and develop their communication. Effective communications is a key skill, to improve the quality of our life.
Children having a secure and sound relationship with parents learn to handle their emotions during stressful and difficult situations. It also helps promotes their mental, linguistic and emotional development. Positive parent-child relationship also helps them to develop strong problem-solving skills.
A child begins to form ideas and beliefs about itself based on how its parents communicatedwith it. A child’s self-esteem is boosted when it feels that it has been heard and understood by its parents. When parents communicate effectively a child feels it is respected.
Sometimes children express their hurt or displeasure by breaking stuff and throwing tantrums, they use these methods as they are unaware of better methods to communicate. At this time if a parent can explain to the child ‘Stop! Throwing a tantrum or breaking things is not going to get you what you want. Calm down and talk to me about what is troubling you, your wish will be fulfilled sooner this way.’
When you are able to explain in this manner the child understands that if it had acted differently, then you would have agreed at once to their demands.
Ideas to help with your listening skills
1.Wait for your child to finish and then respond. ...
2.Use easy language and ideas that your child can readily understand. ...
3.According to your child’s age and ability give it simple and clear instructions and requests.
4.Do not blame or criticize children....
5.Parents need to be a good role model themselves.
6.Improve your child’s conversational skills.....
7.Teach him to empathize with others. ...
8.Establish Listening and Speaking Procedures. ...
9.Teach Respectful vocabulary
10. Encourage Introspection
Parent–Child conflictis an integral aspect of aparent–childrelationship that takes place due to clashes or harsh interactions during which both the parentandchilddisplay negative behaviors.
Parent-child relationshipis a term used for the unique, loving and enduring bond between a caregiver and his or herchild. To understand
this relationship we need to look the ways parents and children interact parentsandchildreninteract with one another physically, emotionally, and socially.
Parentsneed to always encourage and supporttheir childrenas this would help increasetheirself-esteem. Children need youraffection. A physical contact such as a hug or a kiss can go a long way in building a strong bond with yourchild. ...In fact children often become whateverparentskeep telling them they will become.
It is therefore of utmost importance for a parent to express their feelings and thoughts calmly. In spite of getting angry if you can control yourself and are able to communicate in a peaceful manner, it will be a wonderful lesson and a valuable gift to your child.
Steps to avoid conflicts with children
1.Listen to your spouse; this will help you to understand the source of the conflict and work toward a solution. ...
2.Draw attention to the conflict and not to the child. ...
3.Learn to express yourself without blaming. ...
4.Avoid generalizations and comparisons with other children.
How to lead a good life? How to handle problems positively? How to accept life situations and find solutions to them? As a Parent we need to teach and communicate all of this in the best manner to our children.
We as parents should not let our negative experiences or our childhood experiences affect our children’s. Allowing our children to lead their lives according to their natural qualities and to help them choose a path so that they can express themselves freely that would be the greatest gift.