It wasn't easy. It wasn't easy to appreciate yourself, we all are disappointed with our self's at some point. We all are frustrated with inner us. It wasn’t easy, and it’s much easier to throw money at our problems, or run away from them altogether which many of us do.
The problem with this is we end up placing all our happiness outside of ourselves, and on someone else, who doesn’t hold the power to make us feel the way we want to. Only we can do that. So until we do learn to love ourselves, no relationship will truly bring us joy. First love yourself to appreciate yourself.
Loving yourself is a lifelong journey, because we never step learning. But it’s worth it. And it’s a journey you can choose to embark on today. All you have to do is commit to it.
Here are some of the things that happen when you begin to appreciate your inner soul.
You stop caring about what other people think.
When you fully love every part of yourself, including your flaws and all your mistakes; you will find peace. You’ll realize you’re an amazing human, and those parts of yourself that the world tells you are flaws, are actually the very things that make you unique and beautiful. That way you can easily appreciate yourself. And feel good after that.
When you have this realization, it doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t like you, or judges you. Their opinion will no longer matter to you, because you know your truth.
You will start to feel more in control of your life.
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” — Brené Brown
When you make the choice to appreciate yourself first, you’ll see that you always have a choice. It’s easy to get swept up in the madness of life, and make poor decisions out of fear, guilt, or shame, which aren’t really aligned with who you are or what you want.
This is imperative before we begin dating others. When we’re confident and comfortable in who we are, we feel on top of the world, and others can see this in the energy we radiate, and that draws people towards us who are vibing on the same level. So, if you’re looking for a partner who’s comfortable and confident, you need to embody that first, so you can attract it.
A lot of people bounce from one relationship to the next, with little to no break in between, simply because they’re afraid of or dislike being on their own.
This is seriously unhealthy, and it’s important to figure out why you don’t enjoy solo time. Because you’re awesome.
When you appreciate yourself, you’ll take time to do more things that bring a smile to your face. All the things you love. Chasing after other people’s affection and attention will no longer be your goal. You’ll be busy reconnecting with yourself, figuring out who you really are, and having an epic time!
You aren’t afraid to ask for what you want.
Taking the time to appreciate yourself first, helps you to become a little more selfish with your needs and wants, and for most people, this is a great thing.
It requires a certain level of selfishness to go after your dreams unapologetically, and pursue whatever it is that your soul is calling you to. It requires a certain level of selfishness to know what you want and deserve, and ask it without feeling guilty.
You’re able to love other people better.
Taking the time to appreciate yourself first is so important, because this is the only way you discover what it truly means to love yourself . And when you know this, you’ll be able to love other people much better.
You’ll show up in relationships much more confident, and spend less time worrying about what others are thinking of you, and more time focusing on them and how you can give abundantly to them.
You are not incomplete on your own. We are all capable of being whole people on our own. The woids we feel within ourselves can only be filled by us, our love, and not by somebody else.
So it is really important to appreciate yourself. To love yourself you have to appreciate yourself.